ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #1  October 13,2010, 9:35am
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There was an article in the washington post today:

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it is about in this day and age on why people dump their dates. In the first couple paragraphs it references an article similarly done in 1982 that you should also read.



There was something I heard on morning radio but cant find it...it had to do with research results that showed women are much more likely than men to play games in a relationship and they are more likely to end it over little things.
 
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interesting article. thanks for sharing.
 
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I actually didn't care for it. To me it seemed to apologize if not reinforce irrational pickiness.

I also found the conclusion ridiculous; "(T)hey (her daughters) are part of a generation that still values character and commitment," after noting they've dumped guys who put their phone on the table or who don't cook.

Bunk.
 
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"Does he read a lot? Does she know Jung from Jong . . . Books -- they bring out the intellectual snob in all of us . . . Rod McKuen: instant disqualification from polite conversation in most parts of civilized world." -- "When to Dump Your Date"


From the article, the daughters of the author said,

"I still have a literature test, but I think I'm a rare case. It's lame if a guy doesn't even have a bookshelf. When I go to new boyfriend's apartment for the first time, I look at his bookshelf. One guy I dated only had high school books -- I mean, like AP textbooks. You know he doesn't read. My last boyfriend didn't like to read. We'd be hanging out and I would be reading, and he would be like, 'What are you doing now? What are you doing now? What are you doing now? I'm bored.' . . . But he could sit and watch golf on TV, pretty much the most boring sport ever, for hours at a time, but he wouldn't sit and read a book. No intellectual curiosity. . . . The reality now is a lot of people don't read anymore. Everything is so accessible. So guys are getting stupider and stupider." -- Kristen


"I just don't care if guys read books. I actually think there may be a difference between my generation and Kristen's. Even Kristen didn't grow up with computers in the same way I did. . . . You wrote about checking out what guys have on their bookshelves -- whether they have the right kind of literature. No one looks at that anymore. Everything is available on ebrary. A lot of guys now don't even have bookshelves. Books are a hassle to move. I want a bookshelf because they're good furniture pieces." -- Jenna


"The sluggish check-payer is enough to give any woman a pit in her full stomach." -- "When to Dump Your Date"

"The check shouldn't even hit the table if you're out to dinner -- he should grab it out of the waitress's hand. On a first date, if a guy doesn't reach for the check, if he looks the other way or turns it over and says you owe $7.50 -- I'm outta there. But whereas in your generation, it was expected the entire time, I think for us it's only a certain amount of time, like in the wooing period. Even if a guy is dirt-broke I expect him to pick me up on the first date and pay for it. After that I'm fine going Dutch." -- Jenna

I haven't been on a date in the last six years where a guy didn't pay on the first date. Not only should they pay, but if you meet them somewhere, they should be there first -- and ready. When I went out with Pete, this is a random guy, we went and played bingo at a bar. When I got there, he was there and he had already bought the bingo cards. Good start. Now, after that, he proceeded to get falling down drunk, so it ended there." -- Kristen

These 20-something American females, are both like, TOTALLY
gonna make some man A DREADFUL LITTLE WIFE some day.



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Raw_Truth wrote :
I actually didn't care for it. To me it seemed to apologize if not reinforce irrational pickiness.

I also found the conclusion ridiculous; "(T)hey (her daughters) are part of a generation that still values character and commitment," after noting they've dumped guys who put their phone on the table or who don't cook.

Bunk.

FYI---women do that....
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
FYI---women do that....
Yes, we all know this. To use it as a hallmark of "commitment" and "character" I find ridiculous though. It's the opposite if anything.

If anything this editorial is priding itself that via modern communication and social networking, this will only get worse (I agree).
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
There was an article in the washington post today:

washingtonpost.com

it is about in this day and age on why people dump their dates. In the first couple paragraphs it references an article similarly done in 1982 that you should also read.



There was something I heard on morning radio but cant find it...it had to do with research results that showed women are much more likely than men to play games in a relationship and they are more likely to end it over little things.
I preferred the article from 1982 for its gender-inclusivity. You'll note that men made comments like, "I despise women who drink beer out of a paper cup," and "I can't imagine dating a woman who would have even a single chip in her nail polish."

The modern one was written by a single woman interviewing her two daughters. Of course they all had the same opinion (pretty much). I don't see how you can generalize anything about that to all women.

I would also add that little things can sometimes be a sign of larger things. Not all the time, and you should be careful not to jump to conclusions, but if you're dead-set on ignoring all the "little things" (like being rude to the waitress) that bother you even on day one, you've only yourself to blame if you later realize you're a terrible match...
 
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Ok Jenna and Kristen are cute, but I can't stand their attitude.

This is the same attitude that works better than most anti-erection pills out there...pick apart every small single thing that a guy says (particularly stuff like the first one when she asked about a meaning of a word), and make it as big of a deal as they could and if it's all about them.

I pray that they are not the representative of women out there...one of the major reasons why I hate dating.

Seriously where do these girls learn these things?
 
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Wow, this has actually lowered my respect for young women...
 
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Navigator733 wrote :
Wow, this has actually lowered my respect for young women...
It's sad when a single gender-bashing thread can lower your respect for an entire gender...

But I guess there's so many stereotypes about women, it's easy to believe them when they're reinforced.
 
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