Call or wait? Small romantic gestures?


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al_g is offline al_g Post #1  October 12,2010, 6:45pm
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After going over a month without any responses from women I finally got one lady who not only responded but went through guided communication in less then a day. We've talked on the phone and have a date on Sunday, spent close to two hours and I think it went well. Today I got a message from here saying feel free to call or text any time. Part of me wants to just call but I'm not sure where to take the conversation without sounding lame. So that is my first question would you call and what are some ways to open the call, I thought about just asking how work and school is going.

Then the next thing is from our conversation I got a not so subtle hint that she is looking for romance, which really doesn't surprise me. Yet I'm not sure what is a good thing to do. We are meeting for lunch at a restaurant. I'm thinking maybe just some flowers but I know there is a whole huge debate on that for a first date. So any ideas or suggestions?
 
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Flowers sounds a bit much for a first date, even when it is lunch at a restaurant. At the most...just one. Maybe a single rosebud. But that doesn't sound ideal to me, either.

Maybe someone with more experience in a truly romantic relationship will have better input. My guys have mostly been very un-romantic!
 
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They put the new "things to talk about" section in, so start there..
she wants romance? who doesn't! Tell her, you want the same.
bring flowers if you want, or maybe a single flower.

Sounds like a good sign, I guess.
 
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a single pink rose is a good start.
 
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Until you have met her, you don't know that you will feel that attraction. For your own sake, I would try not to get too caught up just yet.

If you call, you might want to just ask about her day . . I am sure something eventful will come up that will fill the time if you two are compatible.

As for gifts on a first date, I would shy away from that. Until you meet her, you don't want to stick your foot where you can't extract it.
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Dont do flowers...too much too soon...could turn her off.

If this is your first meeting...you really want to talk much on the phone other than setting up your meeting point.

If you talk on the phone you will not have stuff to talk abotu when you meet.
 
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Maybe text her hi and that you're looking forward to meeting her, but I agree with ami1uwant, no long phone calls until after the date. Flowers would be sweet, but maybe save them for the next date. Good luck!
 
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A single rose is nice -- not over the top, but definitely romantic. And it doesn't commit you to a lifetime with her, it's just a little gift, so it doesn't matter that you haven't met yet, and don't know really where this is going.

I wouldn't spend a whole lot of time on the phone/email -- it can get tricky with someone you haven't yet met. She sort of asked you to call though, so perhaps a quick call once or twice between now and Sunday -- "how are you, I reread your profile and hey that's really interesting you like xxxx, really looking forward to meeting." Five minutes.
 
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I would save the flower(s) for a second or third date... Then if you are going to do a pink rose (good choice, orange is a good option too - symbolism), give 2, not 1. The symbolism (again) is more meaningful. It will give her (and yourself, possibly) a homework project to research that symbolism.
 
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For a first date, a small romantic gesture is holding open her car door.

Save the flower (just one) for a second date.

Phone just to confirm the date. Keep it short, sincere, and sweet.
 
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