rbk is offline rbk Post #1  October 12,2010, 8:00am
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So this is a phrase that I have not encountered during my (admittedly, still kinda limited) dating experience. I met a woman last night for the first time after we had been emailing for about 1 1/2 - 2 weeks. We just met up, had some tea and what I thought was a pretty nice conversation. It was getting late-ish and she had some work she needed to complete for the next day. I paid for the tea, we walked back to the metro station. Almost as soon as we got in, her train pulls in. She gave me a hug and then told me to "keep in touch" and then left.

Now, normally at the end of dates I've been going on, I've either been getting something along the lines of "lets do this again" or a "it was nice meeting you" and then nothing else, so I generally know where I stand at the end of the night. I'm not really sure how to take "keep in touch." I know I should just take it at face value and not over think it too much.

I do plan on getting in contact with her and seeing if she wants to go out again, so it's all probably a moot point, but is keep in touch basically the equivalent to "I'll call you"?
 
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I'll call you means I may or may not call you after I've had a chance to think about this date.

Keep in touch means you should contact me and I may or may not respond depending on how I feel about this date tomorrow.

You have nothing to lose by calling her and asking her again - she'll either accept or not, but at least you'll for sure what she had in mind.
 
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Ditto on DF's post
 
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90% chance it was the typical BS dating blow off yet "you miss 100% of the shots you never take" is one of my primary life mantras.
 
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You should've been prepared with a couple ideas in mind for the next date and firmed something up before parting.

'Keep in touch' could mean just a nice, shallow way to blow you off or it could mean she's open to seeing you again. The only way to find out is ask her out.

Next time, be prepared.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
I'll call you means I may or may not call you after I've had a chance to think about this date.

Keep in touch means you should contact me and I may or may not respond depending on how I feel about this date tomorrow.

You have nothing to lose by calling her and asking her again - she'll either accept or not, but at least you'll for sure what she had in mind.
^^ This.

She wasn't that into you. She'll probably give you another shot if you ask, but she thought the meet was a dud. Unless you were completely smitten, I'd just move on.
 
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Thanks for the replies. Basically just reaffirming the conclusions I drew from the situation.
 
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I would agree with DancingFool.

A side note given your limited dating experience. I have thus far only had two girls tell me at the end of the first date that they were not interested in going out again. Every other one has said that she wanted to go out again yet the ones that actually ever respond after the first date, let alone go out with me a second time, are very few.
 
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Raw_Truth wrote :
90% chance it was the typical BS dating blow off yet "you miss 100% of the shots you never take" is one of my primary life mantras.
Cheers to the Gretsky for that quote!!

I agree. She's probably not interested. But you had fun, right?
 
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You all are way too negative. What I meant is that her response is too vague to judge and so he should call her up and ask her out again. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

No need to wind yourself into a "oh no, she did not like me" attitude. The only person a defeatist attitude hurts is yourself.
 
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