What to do when you know you're unattractive?


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Xable is offline Xable Post #71  April 2,2011, 9:17pm
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I think I've asked it before and don't remember if you answered or not, but... do you message "ugly" girls too or only the "pretty" ones?

If you are truly unattractive, I think you might have better luck focusing on people who are also unattractive because they are in the same boat you are. They, too, are great people who desperately desire love.

I have never ever not responded to an email message I have gotten in some form or fashion. And, as long as a guy doesn't have any blaring deal breakers, I give him a shot regardless of what he looks like.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
and, get an elaborate hat.
i thought it was learn magic or ventriloquism or something? my bad?
 
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ok BA.... let's see.

1. if you can't even be nice to yourself (comments about yourself), then who else is going to want to? The trick is always to treat yourself with respect and high regard and like you won't take crap from nobody as an example of what you will and will not tolerate as treatment for you.

2. Show some enthusiasm in all you do (especially when communicating with potential dates). Who wants to go out with somebody who can make the Super Bowl sound like watching the grass grow?

3. Act and genuinely be interested in others! ("i make a couple comments about their profile")???? Anybody can do that. Ask them somethign about their profile that caught your eye. ask them about their job, career, one of the interests they have that you've either never heard about, or likeyourself. Ask them WHY they enjoy those hobbies (as a way to get an insight as to what makes them tick).

If you aren't showing interste and enthusiasm, then whos' going to be interested and enthused about you?

Positivity. Passion. Confidence. That's the game and that's what you got to get to. Because that's what people want to be around and what they want to date.

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