Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #1  October 10,2010, 6:44am
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Just got this match this morning:

"X" Orlando, FL
Age 45
Most important thing "X" is looking for: Honesty ...

Additional information: "I am a very honest person, but had to lower my age on here ..."

Yeah, yeah, she was honest in stating in her profile that the age she has listed is not how old she is but she has not said how old she actually is. Therefore she is being dishonest and trying to game the system to get matched to guys who are much younger than her. This is something that I have found frequently on Match but I think it is a first on eHarmony.

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robv_la is offline robv_la Post #2  October 10,2010, 6:48am
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That match screams...

"I like to appear honest, but I'm really not."
 
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Is there an age limit?
 
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Wow. While you only have what she actually wrote to go on, I would hope that what she really meant was that she lowered her age range for potential matches, rather than her actual age.
 
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VB_Girl wrote :
Is there an age limit?
You mean did she state an age limit or range in her profile for the matches that she would consider? NO.
 
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Ha ha ha. That's hilarious.

There's honesty....and then there's a woman's age
 
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pamcam wrote :
Wow. While you only have what she actually wrote to go on, I would hope that what she really meant was that she lowered her age range for potential matches, rather than her actual age.

Unfortunately, this phrase makes that unlikely:

"I am a very honest person, but ..."

Personally, I have communicated with women who admitted this (and I see it from time to time, too.) It seems to happen a lot for those who are just over a round number - and I guess what they found is as soon as they reached that age, they saw their matches decline.

In this case, I look at it not as she is lying to deceive and exploit me, but to overcome a systemic limitation in the dating site process itself.

For sure, if you communicate, it may be worth being on your guard.
 
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annother wrote :
Ha ha ha. That's hilarious.

There's honesty....and then there's a woman's age
Well said, annother.
don't forget to add weight, bra size, and profession (lol).

D_Lion, I'll take your word for it and accept your experience in this; I'm just incredulous, although I 'shouldn't' be.
 
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pamcam wrote :
Wow. While you only have what she actually wrote to go on, I would hope that what she really meant was that she lowered her age range for potential matches, rather than her actual age.
While you are correct in your statement that the only thing that I have to go on is what she wrote. There is no question in my mind that what she means is exactly what she wrote. That where it says at the top of her profile "Age 45" is an incorrect number.

What makes this even more dishonest than having put the wrong age is that the age that is displayed is calculated from the birth date that you put when you first sign up. So to put an incorrect age means that you consciously thought about what birth date to put down to make your age come out to what you want displayed.
 
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