Should an STD be a deal breaker?????


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geegirl is offline geegirl Post #1  June 10,2008, 5:06pm
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should my condition of herpes be revealed in my profile
 
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DianaInHouston is offline DianaInHouston Post #2  June 11,2008, 3:27pm
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No, but it should be before you kiss someone.
 
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tigerlily1067 is offline tigerlily1067 Post #3  June 11,2008, 4:47pm
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I agree with Diana. How can you build a loving, lasting relationship without trust and honesty? If the shoe were on the other foot, wouldn't you want to know before hopping into bed?
 
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YOU CAN CHANGE A PERSONS LIFE WITH JUST ONE KISS,THERE SHOULD BE SITES WHERE PEOPLE WITH STD'S CAN GO AN INTERACT WITH EACH OTHER.I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE TO LIST IT IN YOUR HARMONY SITE BUT LIKE THE OTHERS MENTIONED BEFORE YOU SWAP SALIVA WITH A STRANGER THEY SHOULD KNOW HOW THIER LIFE COULD BE CHANGED,,REMEMBER UNTIL A CURE IS DEVELOPED IF IT EVER IS,,,STD'S ARE FOREVER AND EVER YOU CAN'T BE SELFISH AND NOT TELL ,,LET THEM KNOW THAT THEY CAN DEVELOPE GRUESOME OPEN SORES IN PLACES THAT ARE NOT FLATTERING AT ANY TIME,,,SEX ON BE SAFE AND TRUE TO ALL YOU ENCOUNTER.
 
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I have had more than one match who put right on his profile that he has genital herpes. It is not a dealbreaker for me, but I did appreciate knowing this on the way in to the match. That kind of honesty is hard to beat. Telling someone upfront would weed out those for whom it is a certain dealbreaker, but it also might weed some out who don't know much about it and are simply afraid of getting it themselves. If I had it I do believe I'd put it right on my profile under the other stuff about me on the bottom. i'd rather just be upfront and get it over with.
 
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I think you should put in on your profile since you can not change it about yourself.
 
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Tough call. You don't want to scare off matches who might accept it if they got to know you well before they found out but you also don't want to hide something like that and give the impression that you were being deceptive. Probably best to not have it in your profile but discuss it before the relationship progresses very far.
 
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mytmowse,142229 wrote :

Tough call. You don't want to scare off matches who might accept it if they got to know you well before they found out but you also don't want to hide something like that and give the impression that you were being deceptive. Probably best to not have it in your profile but discuss it before the relationship progresses very far.
Honesty is always the best policy. To start off a relationship based upon a lie or upon such a significant omission is in my opinion no relationship at all.


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honesty is a win - win situation. a real person would admire the honesty and a judgmental person is not the sort you'd like an association with. i forget, what was the question?
 
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dreamergal is offline dreamergal Post #10  June 29,2008, 11:03am
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05,155209 wrote :

honesty is a win - win situation. a real person would admire the honesty and a judgmental person is not the sort you'd like an association with. i forget, what was the question?
Why is it judgmental for someone without an STD to not want a physical relationship with someone who has one? I'm disease-free and plan on staying that way. My health is my responsibility.


Do I look down on someone who has an STD? No, but that doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with them or choose them as a spouse either.
 
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