neko88 is offline neko88 Post #1  October 8,2010, 2:07pm
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These past few days I've been hanging out with a co-worker (another department) because he asked this past Tuesday night if I wanted to go to lunch with him sometime and I said yes of course because I've had a crush on him. He's in his early 20s and I'm in my mid 20s. The next day (wednesday) we didnt have much time to eat but he came over and brought some food and we only had 15 minutes to eat and both of us rushed to work. That night after work he texted me asking if I wanted to hang out again the next day (yesterday) I said yes, so we went out for a lunch and walked around for just a little bit before work again. Then I didn't hear from him after that. When he was texting me before he could write a lot, now I didnt hear anything from him last night about wanting to hang out again. So this morning I texted him jokingly saying how the food he brought over on Wednesday stunk up my fridge and he just texted back "haha im sorry" and then I texted "r u coming into town early again before work?" and he said "im going to try to. but i have to pick up my ss card" (his social security card). His texts were brief compared to what he would usually text so I'm sure I may be over analyzing it since we just recently started hanging out. I also looked him up on facebook (didnt add him) just to see if he was on there and I saw he was talking to this younger pretty girl at our work asking her what her schedule was and that was she pretty, etc (he wrote that last week before we started hanging out this week) anyway, dont mean to sound stalker-ish although Im sure some ppl will think thats weird but me and my friends do look up people on facebook all the time. So, all in all, am I over reading this and being paranoid he may not be interested me suddenly? I already did my part in asking him if he was coming in to town early, so I'm not going to text him again about it and will wait for him to ask me to hang out again.
 
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TrekRyder10 is offline TrekRyder10 Post #2  October 8,2010, 2:20pm
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Every office has a playa..I'm not a fan office romances or even hook-ups at my age...

Take a peek at this thread.. how do you move on when you still see him everyday (how do you move on when you still see him everyday?)

Just something too consider..

If he was truly interested, then he should ask you out on a date, not "hang out"..
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There's a saying "Don't lay your head where you make your bread."

Get it? Potential for all kinds of drama- which is already simmering as you've noticed he's chatting with another co-worker on FB.

Don't text him again. Just move on.
 
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neko88 wrote :
These past few days I've been hanging out with a co-worker (another department) because he asked this past Tuesday night if I wanted to go to lunch with him sometime and I said yes of course because I've had a crush on him. He's in his early 20s and I'm in my mid 20s. The next day (wednesday) we didnt have much time to eat but he came over and brought some food and we only had 15 minutes to eat and both of us rushed to work. That night after work he texted me asking if I wanted to hang out again the next day (yesterday) I said yes, so we went out for a lunch and walked around for just a little bit before work again. Then I didn't hear from him after that. When he was texting me before he could write a lot, now I didnt hear anything from him last night about wanting to hang out again. So this morning I texted him jokingly saying how the food he brought over on Wednesday stunk up my fridge and he just texted back "haha im sorry" and then I texted "r u coming into town early again before work?" and he said "im going to try to. but i have to pick up my ss card" (his social security card). His texts were brief compared to what he would usually text so I'm sure I may be over analyzing it since we just recently started hanging out. I also looked him up on facebook (didnt add him) just to see if he was on there and I saw he was talking to this younger pretty girl at our work asking her what her schedule was and that was she pretty, etc (he wrote that last week before we started hanging out this week) anyway, dont mean to sound stalker-ish although Im sure some ppl will think thats weird but me and my friends do look up people on facebook all the time. So, all in all, am I over reading this and being paranoid he may not be interested me suddenly? I already did my part in asking him if he was coming in to town early, so I'm not going to text him again about it and will wait for him to ask me to hang out again.
i think he just views you as a friend. i wouldnt interpret any of what he did as romantic interest
 
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A couple nights ago he texted me "sweet dreams" and the morning we hung out he texted "good morning" and took me to lunch and paid, so i think he might have liked me at first but then after hanging once or twice maybe he lost interest? I'm not sure, or he may just be interested in that other girl at my work. During he work he only texted me "such a long and boring day" and i responded, but thats all. He hasnt asked me to hang out again, so I'm pretty bummed. I see him all the time since I watch a screen with all the cameras and he's always where the camera is LOL. I wouldn't quit my job over it or anything, we never had a romantic relationship although I would like it to be. *sigh* I dont want to read into things and take all these little scraps like texts during work as a sign he may be into me.
 
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He is interested in hang-outs with you and anything else that is female and answers his texts.

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i think he might have liked me at first but then after hanging once or twice maybe he lost interest?

He may just be interested in that other girl at my work.

He hasnt asked me to hang out again, so I'm pretty bummed.

I dont want to read into things and take all these little scraps like texts during work as a sign he may be into me.
 
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Dear Neko88,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice (eHA) and thanks for posting.

You're not alone here as there's been several threads recently on this topic.

The guiding rule seems to be: "Don't get your honey where you get your money."

That's very good advice when you think about it.

Right now, you're spending a lot of time agonizing over this guy. You see him all the time at work and he's constantly in your thoughts.

Do you see why work romances don't work? There's almost always one of the parties that is hurt.

When a person is dating someone from work, it's hard for the person to get their work done. It also leads to a lot of gossip and other negative things.

For that matter, your Human Resource / Personnel Department may have a policy on this topic.

Keep in mind that many times dating someone at work ends quite badly, could result in a sexual harassment suit, and all sorts of things.

Additionally, it tends to make co-workers uncomfortable.

Look outside the company for someone you're interested in. It's not worth the trouble dating someone from work and some people have even lost their job as a result.

I know it's hard, but there's many other men available that don't work where you do.

Also, what if you were to date and then break-up? You'd still see each other at work and that tends to be a miserable experience.

Seek to get him out of your mind and concentrate on other men who you don't work with.

This is consuming you and is not good.

Write and let us know how you're doing.

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