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dasher is offline dasher Post #1  October 8,2010, 5:41am
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I've been e-mailing a guy for two weeks and so far it's been fairly easy to come up with things to talk about. However, we're not meeting for another 2 weeks and I'm running out of conversation. We're down to "what are you doing today". Any advice?
 
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1)Send him a provocative article, ask what he thinks of it.
2) Ask where he grew up / went to school.
3)Ask how he got interested in his field / profession
4)Ask what he thinks about something in the news.
5) Send him a great picture of yourself, ask him for one.
6) What's his favorite food?
7)What hobbies / interests... what got him interested in them?
8)When you meet in two weeks, where to meet?
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I've been e-mailing a guy for two weeks and so far it's been fairly easy to come up with things to talk about. However, we're not meeting for another 2 weeks and I'm running out of conversation. We're down to "what are you doing today". Any advice?
 
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Forget the emails and pick up the phone and talk once or twice a week until that first meet. They don't have to be long calls or indepth conversations.

continuing to email imo with interview or probing questions is only buliding things up for disappointment.

ETA: I really don't see the point of how was your day emails.. ..
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Forget the emails and pick up the phone and talk once or twice a week until that first meet. They don't have to be long calls or indepth conversations.

continuing to email imo with interview or probing questions is only buliding things up for disappointment.
This and yes, keep the phone calls brief. No reason to talk for an hour.
 
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I agree with others that at this stage it is good to start with phone calls. I'm flexible as to their length especially in the beginning (if they go longer I'm okay if things are flowing well during the call).

But that being said I have met some men who don't feel comfortable speaking much on the phone until we meet (because they're not native English speakers and are afraid they'll make a bad impression on the phone). We speak a little on the phone but then we also supplement with online chat so we still get some back and forth interactive discussion going.
 
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When I was messaging back and forth with someone prior to meeting he asked me to tell him 3 random facts about me, and it turned out to be fun banter between the 2 of us...it was a fun way ot find out about someone without the usualy "canned questions"
 
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I agree with the phone call idea!
 
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Sometimes a more specific question is better than a general one. Asking "What was the best (or, worst) thing that happened to you today" will elicit a more interesting response than "How was your day."

Similarly, you can write about moments, details, a person, an idea, and so on more easily than you can paraphrase the whole day.
 
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dasher wrote :
I've been e-mailing a guy for two weeks and so far it's been fairly easy to come up with things to talk about. However, we're not meeting for another 2 weeks and I'm running out of conversation. We're down to "what are you doing today". Any advice?
I agree with others that you should move to the phone, but at least you have a meeting set up. I get super bored with the e-mailing stage after about 3-4 e-mails. I've been talking to three guys for the past week, and they all seem like they want to just e-mail forever and not move forward. I'm tired of talking about my favorite movies and other crap that doesn't really matter! It's so annoying.
 
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I get super bored with the e-mailing stage after about 3-4 e-mails. I've been talking to three guys for the past week, and they all seem like they want to just e-mail forever and not move forward. I'm tired of talking about my favorite movies and other crap that doesn't really matter! It's so annoying.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but if I guy isn't asking for your phone number, it's usually because you are his backup. That doesn't mean anything other than that a women or two got to his call list before you did.
 
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