dater26 is offline dater26 Post #1  October 7,2010, 5:22am
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I started to talking to this guy I met through a dating site on the phone. The phone conversations were great! We met one day for lunch and that date was good! Lasted about 2 1/2 hours. At the end of that date, he asked what I was doing the next couple of wkends. Later in the week, we planned something for Friday, which was another great date, or so I think...that date lasted about 4 hours. Again, he asked what I was doing next wkend....we haven't set anything up, but we're still texting/talking. But, I haven't heard from him since Monday and this is Thursday, is it okay to check in, see how he's doing, maybe ask if he'd like to hang out tmrw night?? I read signs of interest but just not sure....thanks!!
 
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And there's lots of touching and flirting, even on the phone monday night, which was another hour long conversation, he's still flirting and ends his convo with, "Allright good night and sweet dreams, I'll talk to you soon"
 
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I started to talking to this guy I met through a dating site on the phone. The phone conversations were great! We met one day for lunch and that date was good! Lasted about 2 1/2 hours. At the end of that date, he asked what I was doing the next couple of wkends. Later in the week, we planned something for Friday, which was another great date, or so I think...that date lasted about 4 hours. Again, he asked what I was doing next wkend....we haven't set anything up, but we're still texting/talking. But, I haven't heard from him since Monday and this is Thursday, is it okay to check in, see how he's doing, maybe ask if he'd like to hang out tmrw night?? I read signs of interest but just not sure....thanks!!
I can understand your frustration....this is currently happening to me - lol...I'd maybe, maybe, maybe wait until later on today to contact him if your curiosity is getting the better of you, but don't ask him to hang out.

But I think we need some feedback from the guys here - lol...
 
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He is probably interested, but keep in mind, also dating others.
Asking "what you are doing next weekend" is not the same as asking you out.

Texting / calling him on a Thursday to invite him to "hang out" tomorrow night sounds desperate. Don't do it.

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IAgain, he asked what I was doing next wkend....we haven't set anything up, but we're still texting/talking.

But, I haven't heard from him since Monday and this is Thursday, is it okay to check in, see how he's doing, maybe ask if he'd like to hang out tmrw night?? I read signs of interest but just not sure....thanks!!
 
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From the sounds of it, he's not dating anyone else...I've screwed up before by overthinking it, so I'm laying lower this time....
 
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I have been in your shoes and my solid answer is DON'T contact him to see if he's going to ask you out this weekend. If he wants to ask you out, he absolutely will, and if he doesn't because he has other plans or otherwise, he will feel pressured by you for the contact.

The only job you have right now is to sit and wait for him to ask you out again. I know it sucks. But it's this one time in our lives, as women, where we actually have to let the guys do the chasing a little bit. they thrive on that and as soon as they think the tables have turned and you're chasing them, they lose a little bit of interest.

Again, if he wants to go out, he'll ask you. He knows how to reach you. Just wait it out! If he is seeing other girls, be different than the rest and don't chase!
 
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I guess I am just an oddball at times...LOL...

Because if I liked the guy...wanted to see him again...and it sounds...from what you have written, that he feels the same...then I would send an email/text (yes..i know...but that's how they have been chatting......saying.."Just checking in to say hi and hope that you have been having a great week...I really enjoyed our conversation last Mon. night...hope we can chat/get together soon...

I just don't see anything awful in risking letting someone know you like them...you are not proposing exclusivity.....telling him he's the one....just a simple hi...you enjoy him..and would like to see him again...

Nothing ventured, nothing gained is how I approach the dating world...

It's been two dates...so nothing says that you can't even go and suggest something for next weekend...or maybe Sunday this weekend...I do believe in planning a bit ahead...

Something like.."I've heard good things about the movie..xyz...or the show...lmm....does that sound like something you would enjoy attending with me?"....

I mean..if a guy doesn't get any feedback or interest from you and he has to do all the work...interest usually fades...but guys can speak to that more on here...

I just believe in a no games...not desperate, just honest and flirty and fun approach to dating..

Good luck!
 
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Again, if he wants to go out, he'll ask you. He knows how to reach you. Just wait it out! If he is seeing other girls, be different than the rest and don't chase!
He planned the first two dates though, so I don't want him to think he has to make all the effort.....I won't ask for Friday, but I would like to check in and see how the conversation goes before deciding anything further...
 
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Tracyannk28 wrote :
But I think we need some feedback from the guys here - lol...
Us guys really hate it when you girls feel the need to shoot us with tranquilizer darts and embed gps tracking chips in us.

I would give it until at least Friday afternoon, but, a quick email or text reinforcing that you're still interested I would view as a positive. I wouldn't do anything to try and lock something down for the weekend just yet.
 
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dater26 wrote :
I started to talking to this guy I met through a dating site on the phone. The phone conversations were great! We met one day for lunch and that date was good! Lasted about 2 1/2 hours. At the end of that date, he asked what I was doing the next couple of wkends. Later in the week, we planned something for Friday, which was another great date, or so I think...that date lasted about 4 hours. Again, he asked what I was doing next wkend....we haven't set anything up, but we're still texting/talking. But, I haven't heard from him since Monday and this is Thursday, is it okay to check in, see how he's doing, maybe ask if he'd like to hang out tmrw night?? I read signs of interest but just not sure....thanks!!
interested guys wont bs around and they will try to pin down a definite date. and asking someone to *hang out* isnt good nor is it a *date*. all you will be doing is encouraging him to treat you like a not so great girl by doing that sort of thing. stop with the texting and let him call you (in advance) if you are interested in the guy. if hes interested in you, he will. period.
 
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