Can you or will you admit?

Depends. Sometimes somebody (never me, of course) does something really nasty or jerky -- and the badness of the date is all on them, not me.

More often, it just wasn't a good match -- not a "bad date", just didn't click. Doesn't say anything, good or bad, about either of us.

Well all of this seems like it's a matter of opinion of both parties whether or not it was a "bad" date. I went on a date with a guy. We met after work for a drink. We ordered a glass of wine each. I did most of the talking and asking of questions. We ordered another glass of wine. I still did most of the talking and asking questions. It felt a little like pulling teeth. About two hours later I had to go (it was planned as a short date) and I offered to leave money for the wine. I put a $20 toward the bill and he took it. He is an engineer, I am a legal secretary. He probably makes 3 times more money than me. It was our first date. I thought it was a terrible date. He had no manners letting me pay and I clearly did everything to keep the conversation moving. As far as I was concerned, there was zero chemistry between us.

Needless to say, he sent me an email telling me he had a great time and would like to get together again. Let him know. For him it was obviously a good date.

I did not contact him again.

So there you have it. Two people that had two opposite experiences.

To being a bad date? When you go out on a date with someone and things doesn't go well, do you take half of the blame for the date not going well or do you put it all on your date for things not going well? If you were the reason for the date going bad, would you or could you own up to being a bad date?

I am curious in knowing if it takes two to make or break a date or is it usually one person who ends up being the guilty one?

B.Y.