dazedconfuzed is offline dazedconfuzed Post #1  October 6,2010, 10:30am
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There are a couple "other" sites that have that nifty little option to "Favorite" someone.

A friend and I were discussing this today and wondering - what's the purpose of Favorites? I mean, if you can favorite someone, why don't you just take the initiative and message them? Why waste the time with a favorite? What’s the point? Do you send messages to people who favorite you? If yes, why? What do you say? Do YOU favorite people? If, yes, why? Why not just send them a message?
 
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howardtheduck is offline howardtheduck Post #2  October 6,2010, 10:38am
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I learned some time ago, that if a woman "favorites" a man, she is indicating interest without taking a risk.

If you see that you are "favorited" and write there is a 99.9% probability that she will respond.

I did, it worked for me. The messages I sent made no reference to being "favorited" it was as though you saw and liked their profile and wanted to say hello. Just like any other initial e-mail you would send. I never wasted time "favoriting" her back - much rather say hello.

It's almost the man initiated the dialog. Magic...
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dazedconfuzed wrote :
There are a couple "other" sites that have that nifty little option to "Favorite" someone.

A friend and I were discussing this today and wondering - what's the purpose of Favorites? I mean, if you can favorite someone, why don't you just take the initiative and message them? Why waste the time with a favorite? What’s the point? Do you send messages to people who favorite you? If yes, why? What do you say? Do YOU favorite people? If, yes, why? Why not just send them a message?
I like that, on OkCupid, you can favorite people without letting them know. I favorite people when I really like their profile, but have too many other men "on my plate" at the moment. I can't multidate 10 men at once, after all.

I don't want the guys to know, because I don't want them to think I'm passive/a stalker/etc.--someone who's afraid to send them a "real" message. It's just a way for me to organize the guys, so if the people I'm dating now end up falling through, I can find the ones I like again more easily.

I don't get favoriting people & letting them know, or the "Wink" function on OKC. There's no point. Either send a real message, or don't bother! That's my take on it...

(I can see why women who don't like to initiate might use that option, I guess, but that's too old-fashioned for me...)
 
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It would be a useful sorting tool to round up profiles I like, but I don't necessarily want to talk to them right now for various reasons. Unfortunately, the site I'm on will broadcast that info to the match, so I don't use it. It does look kind of weird when someone favorites you but then does not do anything about it. Or the match will then send you an e-mail and you weren't really ready to talk to them but now you must. Kind of annoying - good tool but not good at the same time.
 
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This is the opposite evil twin of "archive" on eH.
No time to write at the moment?, narrow it down before messaging? go back for a second look after looking at others?

dazedconfuzed wrote :
There are a couple "other" sites that have that nifty little option to "Favorite" someone.

A friend and I were discussing this today and wondering - what's the purpose of Favorites? I mean, if you can favorite someone, why don't you just take the initiative and message them? Why waste the time with a favorite? What’s the point? Do you send messages to people who favorite you? If yes, why? What do you say? Do YOU favorite people? If, yes, why? Why not just send them a message?
 
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FruitaBu is offline FruitaBu Post #6  October 6,2010, 2:00pm
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howardtheduck wrote :
I learned some time ago, that if a woman "favorites" a man, she is indicating interest without taking a risk.

If you see that you are "favorited" and write there is a 99.9% probability that she will respond.

That sounds about right. Wish we could do that on eH!!!
 
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annother is offline annother Post #7  October 6,2010, 3:39pm
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I think of "favouriting" in the same way I think of bookmarking. It's a place holder to make it easier to go back and review the profile.

If the person sees that they are favourited, though, it changes the character of it somewhat. I probably would not "favourite" many people in that case.
 
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I guess multiple views would be eH's equivalent to favoring.
 
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