First date... Trip to HAWAII?!!!


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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #1  October 5,2010, 2:15pm
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Okay, I have finally lost my mind, but I am seriously considering this... would you?

I need a vacation, and haven't taken a break in a while. I have been communicating with this guy, he works at the same company that I work at, and seems like a real sweetheart. Actually, we might end up being better friends than actually dating... he's younger than I am, by a few years actually.

but, I was supposed to go to Hawaii with another friend and they cannot make it... so, I'm thinking about seeing if the guy wants to go with me. We haven't even MET yet!! I know it seems crazy, but I think you have to live sometimes... since this would be friendly only, I would let him know that I'd pay my own way...

would you ask him? would you go if you were the person being asked? would you run as fast as you could, because you're obviously communicating with a crazy person!
 
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Do you remember the thread from atlguy.. almost the same scenario.. worked out for him..

I wouldn't go, nor would I ask someone I didn't know to go( BTDT) I've never been to hawaii so the thought of it be platonic would stink imo..
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I would lean toward going, if I could justify the trip on its own merit, afford it comfortably, and be away from work.

It would not frighten me to take such a trip with a new partner - though I do think it best to clarify the intimacy expectations (I would have them) and current status (e.g., exclusivity.)

Although this is more extensive than any experience of mine, in general I find people who find this reasonable to make for more successful relationship. So, I tend to support the idea.
 
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f I had never met the girl, it would be strange. Only because if you both so not click in person at all, then what? On a date you can just walk away after an hour or so, on a vacation, you got no where to go.

I would do a meet and greet first before asking someone on a trip, even if you have friend vibe, it would stil be fun, but it would save you from spending a large amount of time with somoene you have zero interest in.
 
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My ex husband and I planned a trip to Greece (but for 4 months down the line) after a few weeks of dating each other...

It was my 30th and his 40th b-day year and we decided..even if it doesn't work out for us dating..we will still go as friends...

That's about as close as I have come to that situation..

I agree with Shantak, I probably wouldn't do this with someone I have never met..even though I am very adventerous....I just love my vacations too much to have a complete dud as a travel companion..I would rather go with someone I at least know I get along with..
 
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well, it's not really a date, since you arent interested in him romantically.

i would meet the person first. then i would establish that it's a friends only thing, very clearly, so he doesn't get the wrong idea.
 
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I live down the street from you...ill go with you
 
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I'd think the person was trying too hard but that's just me. You know your situation better than I do so if you think it might work, go for it.
 
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As a guy gods no I wouldn't go as "friends." It's a nightmare scenario I've lived a time or two in the past. Nothing is as miserable as being on a romantic trip with a romantic interest (because as we know there is no such thing as friends) yet having to be "hands off." I wouldn't go for free actually, and I'm serious, and not because I've been to Hawaii a bunch of times either.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Do you remember the thread from atlguy.. almost the same scenario.. worked out for him..

I wouldn't go, nor would I ask someone I didn't know to go( BTDT) I've never been to hawaii so the thought of it be platonic would stink imo..
Trek, I think we should both go ... as their chaparones, of course!
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