how many drinks is TOO much?


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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #1  October 4,2010, 6:57am
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I'm curious about something because I'm not a big drinker myself. Since I rarely drink anything, I don't really pay attention to what others drink, and feel it's something that is specific to each individual.

With that being said, I had a nice casual lunch date with a guy on Sunday afternoon... he put down 5 whisky's in the 2.5 hour period of time that we met...

Since, I don't really know how people drink, I'm not sure if that's a potential sign of something, or, if that's just normal.

I'm sure there might be a difference between how many drinks a person considers normal "at night" versus how many on average, people may drink during the middle of the day. No?

For those alcohol drinkers... if you went on a date in the middle of the day on a Sunday afternoon, how many drinks, on average would you order, or be okay with your date ordering before you thought they might have a drinking problem?
 
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This is legally intoxicated . If he does this on the first date, it's his lifestyle.

I just hope he didn't kill anyone driving home. Get rid of this alcoholic.

I never order more than one drink . If my date kept ordering more than that on the first date, I would only pay for the first one, then make a quick exit.

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With that being said, I had a nice casual lunch date with a guy on Sunday afternoon... he put down 5 whiskeys in the 2.5 hour period of time that we met...


if you went on a date in the middle of the day on a Sunday afternoon, how many drinks, on average would you order, or be okay with your date ordering before you thought they might have a drinking problem?
 
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I am also not a drinker. but I used to casually. 2 drinks on a Sunday afternoon would make me seriously doubt seeing him again. But 5 drinks of whiskey on a Sunday afternoon FIRST date? RUN. I would never call him again. 5 drinks on a Friday night date would also make me not call him again, fyi. but at lunch? How many would he have at dinner? Does he have to drink all day? Did he hop into his car and drive afterward? Dating a drinker is not fun, unless you also like to get wasted and act stupid in public.

Just my opinion of course, which is: he has a drinking problem. You inspired me to write my very first post!
 
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jussmile wrote :

With that being said, I had a nice casual lunch date with a guy on Sunday afternoon... he put down 5 whisky's in the 2.5 hour period of time that we met...
I'll put it this way:
Unless the guy weighed like 300 lbs. he would probably be well over the legal limit in my state: .08

yeah. To me that's a lot of alcohol in a short period. I might have one drink in that period.
 
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More than about 1 per hour would make me uncomfortable. Beyond that and they'll either show signs of intoxication or that they drink often/heavily enough to be a potential problem.
 
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Woow, 5 glasses of whisky in 2.5 hours. Move on ....
 
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It seems like too much to me but as you mentioned it differs from person to person. He may have built a high tolerance to alcohol (which isn't a good thing) and that amount may not really affect him much but if this is the case it would indicated he is a heavy drinker.
 
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ISearch4Love wrote :
It seems like too much to me but as you mentioned it differs from person to person. He may have built a high tolerance to alcohol (which isn't a good thing) and that amount may not really affect him much but if this is the case it would indicated he is a heavy drinker.
I usually keep my intake at 2 or 3 drinks...but 5! And Whiskey? errrr....I think this guy drinks too much - and he drinks the 'hard stuff'. What was he like?
 
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Having been married to an alcoholic, RUN, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!! He definitely has a problem that isn't going away.

My advice to you is to call the guy a cab next time. Regardless of your feelings toward him, he was so over the limit, he is a danger behind the wheel for both himself and others on the road.

The signs are always there, so trust your gut and that nagging little voice because it usually is right. Justification for their behavior is a good indication that they have a problem and are in complete denial. Good luck in the future!
 
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Yikes.....5 drinks of hard liquor is a problem.

Typically people will only have one or two drinks and usually not hard liquor. Who wants to be talking to a drunk date and then driving drunk???
 
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