I'm in Texas He's in Ohio


Reply
  • Page 1 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
mugs is offline mugs Post #1  October 3,2010, 4:53pm
mugs's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Oct 2010

Posts: 1

See profile

How do you get to that first date, if your in different locations. Do we both fly to the middle, and see what happens?
 
  Reply With Quote
TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #2  October 3,2010, 4:55pm
TheThinker's Avatar

Just what you want to be...you will be in the end

Power Poster

Joined: Aug 2009

The Island of Rhode

Posts: 6,423

See profile

mugs wrote :
How do you get to that first date, if your in different locations. Do we both fly to the middle, and see what happens?
sure! why not..
 
  Reply With Quote
VB_Girl is offline VB_Girl Post #3  October 3,2010, 4:58pm
VB_Girl's Avatar

is working hard for this vacation!

Power Poster

Joined: Feb 2009

Chicago

Posts: 6,946

See profile

I'd say pick one city or the other. No need for both people to incur costs, although sharing the cost is a good idea and should be suggested.

Good luck!
 
  Reply With Quote
Nanette is offline Nanette Post #4  October 3,2010, 8:05pm
Nanette's Avatar

~ giving gentle smack-downs... vewy vewy gentle

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Posts: 7,451

See profile

he flies to you. he suggests it
 
  Reply With Quote
MagicalTrev is offline MagicalTrev Post #5  October 3,2010, 9:04pm
MagicalTrev's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Dec 2009

Northern California

Posts: 132

See profile

One person pays for the plane ticket, the other pays for the hotel and food and whanot.

There are two people in any relationship worth having, and if you wait for him to do all the work like Nanette suggests then he's better off not wasting his time and focusing instead on finding someone who's as interested in meeting him as he is in meeting her.
 
  Reply With Quote
Wiseman2 is offline Wiseman2 Post #6  October 4,2010, 2:45am
Wiseman2's Avatar

Power Poster

Joined: May 2009

Posts: 6,301

See profile

What did he suggest? This distance may require an overnight stay, whether in your town, his town or somewhere in between. Driving? Flying? Finances? All these are necessary information in order to decide. Fly to the middle and see what happens? How well do you even know him?. Long distance relationships are a long-shot, fraught with problems, in the first place. Find out more before you waste your time and money and possibly put yourself at risk.
mugs wrote :
How do you get to that first date, if your in different locations. Do we both fly to the middle, and see what happens?
 
  Reply With Quote
Nanette is offline Nanette Post #7  October 4,2010, 3:32am
Nanette's Avatar

~ giving gentle smack-downs... vewy vewy gentle

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Posts: 7,451

See profile

if hes not willing to "do all the work" hes probably not all that interested in you.
 
  Reply With Quote
Nanette is offline Nanette Post #8  October 4,2010, 3:36am
Nanette's Avatar

~ giving gentle smack-downs... vewy vewy gentle

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Posts: 7,451

See profile

and i think its important to add that if hes not *that* crazy about you, neither one of you should be doing this. some guys will take whoever is convenient till someone that he is crazy about comes along. when *she* comes along its not going to matter to him.
 
  Reply With Quote
MagicalTrev is offline MagicalTrev Post #9  October 4,2010, 4:38am
MagicalTrev's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Dec 2009

Northern California

Posts: 132

See profile

Nanette wrote :
if hes not willing to "do all the work" hes probably not all that interested in you.
If she's not willing to lift a finger, she's probably not all that interested.

Nanette wrote :
and i think its important to add that if hes not *that* crazy about you, neither one of you should be doing this. some guys will take whoever is convenient till someone that he is crazy about comes along. when *she* comes along its not going to matter to him.
I think it's important to add that if she's not that crazy about you, neither one of you should be doing this. Some women will take whoever they can string along without actually making an effort themselves until someone they are crazy about comes along. When he comes along, it's not going to matter anyway.

I think you get the idea.

Dating is a two person game. I can't fathom wasting time with someone who would expect the other person to do all the work.
 
  Reply With Quote
DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #10  October 4,2010, 4:51am
DancingFool's Avatar

Power Poster

Joined: Jan 2009

Posts: 5,750

See profile

Personal experience - go to a mutually neutral place. It will be fun and save you a whole lot of headaches.

However, as others pointed out, be sure you both have enough going for you before taking that step. Be sure to address serious deal breakers, finances and sustainability of a long distance relationship, etc. It works, but it's a very different dynamic. You have to discuss a lot of serious subjects up front that normally you would not discuss until later when dating locally.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 1 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3


« Anyone Care to Guess the Reason for this email I received? | Dating | Inappropriate Conversations »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Sometimes it is better than going on a so-so date just to fill your calendar.” –  sun73

Join the “dreaded free weekend” discussion

“When a man dates women, especially exclusively, who are much more physically attractive, I think he gets exactly what he's asking for and what he deserves - a woman who is not physically attracted to ... ” –  Bluskies4ever3

Join the “My first "Matchmaker" date” discussion

“Always trust your instincts.” –  sun73

Join the “Yellow flags...To Proceed or not to proceed, that is the question?” discussion

“ I was never into David Cassidy. Now, Shaun Cassidy... loved him! (And he was such a girl, too. So pretty!) I still have his album, too. I think it has my sister's name sticker on it, too. ” –  mitchell175

Join the “Robin Gibbs Dead at 62...How Deep is Your Love?” discussion

“I enjoy walking my german shepherd.” –  sun73

Join the “Friday Night Roll Call !!! Sweaty Summer Fun edition!” discussion

“Hmm. I think we are using the term 'preference' differently. Anyway, you can choose 'not important' for everything if you want the widest range of choices possible. If you do that and still don't get ... ” –  mitchell175

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“Seriously? That cloud looks nothing like George Clooney!” –  mitchell175

Join the “Comment to win a FREE month of eHarmony!” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 1:18am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0