Facebook stalkish functions: which function is helpful or not helpful in your dating?


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windsurfing is offline windsurfing Post #1  September 30,2010, 2:47am
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I think most heavy facebook users know that the facebook has all sorts of "stalkish" functions. They now allow you to publish where you are.

Perhaps late to the party, but I have finally put my relationship status as "Single." Although this is one of those most annoyingly stalkish functions, I am hoping that it may improve my dating potential among facebook friends. I am also debating in myself whether or not I should also post I am "Looking for Dating, Relationship" and am "Interested in Men" to indicate even a clearer intention.

Okay, I am now a little interested in a guy that I met at a party. Let's call him John here. I made facebook friends with him and sent him a message telling him that I would love to see him again sometime soon, to indicate my interest.

Right after that, I wrote to other friends of mine friendly Wall Posts like "Hey Jerry, what's up? Haven't seen you for a while. I miss you! Let's catch up this weekend! xoxoxo." After writing numerous Wall Posts, I've just realized that they publish Wall Posts in John's News Feeds if both John and other guy friends are mutual friends. We have many mutual guy friends to whom I regularly write the "xoxo (i.e., hugs & kisses)" type of Wall Posts. THAT's pretty annoying to me.

Which facebook functions do you find helpful or not helpful in your dating? Do you have any stories in which the facebook stalkish functions affected your dating potential positively or negatively?
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Three ways to protect your privacy:
1)Just say no to Facebook ( that's my approach)
2) Understand and carefully set your privacy settings, don't just go with defaults
3) Be careful what you post on your or others page., you aren't writing in a diary, you are broadcasting to a huge audience.
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I think most heavy facebook users know that the facebook has all sorts of "stalkish" functions. They now allow you to publish where you are.

Perhaps late to the party, but I have finally put my relationship status as "Single." Although this is one of those most annoyingly stalkish functions, I am hoping that it may improve my dating potential among facebook friends. I am also debating in myself whether or not I should also post I am "Looking for Dating, Relationship" and am "Interested in Men" to indicate even a clearer intention.

Okay, I am now a little interested in a guy that I met at a party. Let's call him John here. I made facebook friends with him and sent him a message telling him that I would love to see him again sometime soon, to indicate my interest.

Right after that, I wrote to other friends of mine friendly Wall Posts like "Hey Jerry, what's up? Haven't seen you for a while. I miss you! Let's catch up this weekend! xoxoxo." After writing numerous Wall Posts that may come across as friendly flirty to other guys, I've just realized that they publish Wall Posts in John's News Feeds if both John and other guy friends are mutual friends and that we have many mutual guy friends to whom I regularly write the "xoxo (i.e., hugs & kisses)" type of Wall Posts. THAT's pretty annoying to me.

Which facebook functions do you find helpful or not helpful in your dating? Do you have any stories in which the facebook stalkish functions affected your dating potential positively or negatively?
 
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Facebook will NOT help your dating life. It WILL cause it to come crashing down around your ears. You gave the exact reason when you wrote this:

"Right after that, I wrote to other friends of mine friendly Wall Posts like "Hey Jerry, what's up? Haven't seen you for a while. I miss you! Let's catch up this weekend! xoxoxo." After writing numerous Wall Posts, I've just realized that they publish Wall Posts in John's News Feeds if both John and other guy friends are mutual friends. We have many mutual guy friends to whom I regularly write the "xoxo (i.e., hugs & kisses)" type of Wall Posts. THAT's pretty annoying to me."
 
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I don't get this weird phobia people have about facebook. My ex was massively paranoid about it which I never understood and no matter how many times I told him he had complete control over who saw what and who could post what I never could convince him it wouldn't come back to bite him on the butt....which is did. In the form of an angry ex.....me.

Hey, don't freak. It was just a private message.

So here's my take on Facebook. The only time it's really useful is finding some high school friend you haven't seen in years. Other than that it's just chalked full of potential disaster for romantic relationships.

Like take my page....in a relationship, single....doesn't matter. I never change that status. It's remained on single since the day I put the page up. But does the guy I'm dating know this? No.
 
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A good rule of thumb about the internet in general, including this website: if I am not prepared for everyone in the world - family, strangers, employers, future employers, coworkers, ANYBODY and EVERYBODY... then I don't put it out there. Much like gossip - the surest way for everyone to know is to tell one person in confidence.

FB is unreliable in their privacy controls.
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
Three ways to protect your privacy:
1)Just say no to Facebook ( that's my approach)
2) Understand and carefully set your privacy settings, don't just go with defaults
3) Be careful what you post on your or others page., you aren't writing in a diary, you are broadcasting to a huge audience.
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Also, don't facebook friend your gf / bf.
 
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windsurfing wrote :
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You forgot--there's too many older folks on this site. "Kids these days with their Facebooking!" You're probably not going to get many positive results with this!

I've got to run off (I've got a date!) but when I have a chance, I'll come back and post some things about my Facebooking.


Y'all have fun, now.
 
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