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She called me on Thursday and we talked almost an hour, I called back on Saturday night, asked her to a date she said yes, we talked almost two hours and she had to hang up as her sister came to her house

I did not hear back from her since then. Was I supposed to call again or isn't it normal that the last called party makes the next call ?

I am thinking she poofed on me and I do not want to look desperate for calling again 4 days later after not hearing anything from her.

Is this a typical poof ? Was I supposed to make all the calls after her initial call ?

P.S. Based on the early responses I called her ...
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we talked almost two hours and she had to hang up as her sister came to her house
Sounds like an excuse to me. You probably should have just arranged an actual time and location date and got off the phone before you ruined it.
 
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Lovemy40s is offline Lovemy40s Post #4  September 29,2010, 1:35pm

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So I am gathering that you didn't plan a place/day/time for this date you asked her to?

If a girl says 'yes'..you need to be prepared with a response of.."great..how about dinner on Saturday night at 7pm"..

It's called 'closing'.....

And you haven't called or even emailed since Sat????..she might be thinking.;.hmm...he asked me out but never set something up..maybe I said something in the phone call to change his mind....;

but you can still go forward...be brave

So..a few questions..was the sister visiting from out of town? or just a quick evening visit?

If she has company..I would call and leave a quick msg. saying.."Hi xyx..it was wonderful talking to you the other night..I got so caught up in our conversation, I forgot to set up a time/day for our date..How about next Sat. at 7pm at xyz..would that work for you? You can reach me tonight after 6pm..hope you have had a good visit with your sister"...

Or..if it was a quick visit from a local sister..then just call and set up the date now...

Just be prepared that she might already have plans for this upcoming weekend..so maybe a lunch next week or the following weekend...But get on the schedule now

**all this advice goes in reverse if it's the girl asking the guy out for a particular date...

Good luck!
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Before I ruined it .... very interesting point of view, maybe you are right. next time I will not happily yap away but be business like, maybe that will work.


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Sounds like an excuse to me. You probably should have just arranged an actual time and location date and got off the phone before you ruined it.
 
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'Was I supposed to call again or isn't it normal that the last called party makes the next call ?'

Sigh....stop letting hackneyed rules of conduct get in your way. Call if you want to call. Obviously these 'rules' don't work, or we all wouldn't be sitting around cruising the internet for luv!
 
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My replies in red ....

Lovemy40s wrote :
So I am gathering that you didn't plan a place/day/time for this date you asked her to?

We started to talk about how where and one thing followed another and we started to talk about other stuff. I had every intention of firming it up before the en of the talk but the sudden end of the call was unexpected.

 If a girl says 'yes'..you need to be prepared with a response of.."great..how about dinner on Saturday night at 7pm"..

We started to discuss and ....I guess I am not a pro at this as you can see

It's called 'closing'.....

And you haven't called or even emailed since Sat????..yikes..I think if I were her I would be waiting for you to have followed through after saying yes to a date...

but you can still go forward...

So..a few questions..was the sister visiting from out of town? or just a quick evening visit?

Nope lives nearby

If she has company..I would call and leave a quick msg. saying.."Hi xyx..it was wonderful talking to you the other night..I got so caught up in our conversation, I forgot to set up a time/day for our date..How about next Sat. at 7pm at xyz..would that work for you? I know you have company so you can get back to me in the next few days..have a good visit with your sister"...

Or..if it was a quick visit from a local sister..then just call and set up the date now...

Hmmm, not this will take guts on my side after 4 days, I should have asked this earlier

Just be prepared that she might already have plans for this upcoming weekend..so maybe a lunch next week or the following weekend...But get on the schedule now

**all this advice goes in reverse if it's the girl asking the guy out for a particular date...

Good luck!
 
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Did you set specific plans on this 2 hr call?

If not...why not?

If you didnt then that warrants you to call her again and set something up.

It seems more like you "poofed" on her.
 
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Funny

At this age I am more interested in a partner I can communicate be happy with so none were purchased yet Not to mean that sex is not important.

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I never thought that it could be seen as me poofing ... you guys are useful

I called her without delay knowing it was a bad time to make a call, we will talk later tonight. yes I got a time

Now I have to put up with all the comments, oh well, bring them on

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