Men: do you care about a woman's profession?


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I was talking with my boss about a date I'm going on next week with an animator (for movies/tv) and he stopped me and observed that I seemed especially pleased about his profession (I guess my voice raised in pitch or something, lol). He then said to me,

"See, that's where men and women are different. Men don't care what a woman does for a living."

I didn't agree with him...and so I thought I'd ask our Community for their feedback.

So, men - when deciding whether or not to date, and then ultimately move forward with a date into relationship territory, does the woman's profession factor into the equation for you?

If not, why not?

If so, how so?

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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
I was talking with my boss about a date I'm going on next week with an animator (for movies/tv) and he stopped me and observed that I seemed especially pleased about his profession (I guess my voice raised in pitch or something, lol). He then said to me,

"See, that's where men and women are different. Men don't care what a woman does for a living."

I didn't agree with him...and so I thought I'd ask our Community for their feedback.

So, men - when deciding whether or not to date, and then ultimately move forward with a date into relationship territory, does the woman's profession factor into the equation for you?

If not, why not?

If so, how so?

Thanks in advance for an interesting discussion.

I agree with the animator. For the most part, a woman's profession isn't as important or high on our priority list as it is for women. Men care more about a woman's physique and sexual prowless or lackthereof than whether she is a blue or white collar worker.

Trust me, if a man sees a woman who is extremely hot, it wouldn't matter if she worked at Mc Donalds or if she was a sales clerk at Target. Hotness supercedes everything(with exceptions). lol

Now, for me...I do place some value into a woman's profession. Mainly because I want to know if she is able to care for herself. Not because I want her money or able to provide for me. Second, I want to know if I am intellectually compatible with someone and those who have professional jobs tend to have college degrees and/or compariable work experience in the working/corporate world.

So, to give you an honest answer, I would say that both of you are correct, but I do believe that men place less significance on a woman's profession than women places on a man's profession.

Men are socially conditioned to provide financially, so that's why women are more likely to ask questions about a man's means of income than the other way around.

In all, interesting question..

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Only so much that it's not something completely unsavory.

I'd say this is because a man expects to have to take care of himself, and probably do a lot of woman supporting, too. Women, on the other hand, frequently make intellectual relationship decisions based on how well a man can support her various vices and addictions so she has more time to enjoy herself instead of working.
 
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Only so much that it's not something completely unsavory.

I'd say this is because a man expects to have to take care of himself, and probably do a lot of woman supporting, too. Women, on the other hand, frequently make intellectual relationship decisions based on how well a man can support her various vices and addictions so she has more time to enjoy herself instead of working.
Why did I chuckle when reading your post? lol

Yeah, I don't think most men would want to be with a stripper or prosititute. But, some do and other's could care less. I think both men and women wants a mate that can provide. It is just that men and women may want their significant other to provide in different ways and then you have those who wants someone to provide EVERYTHING! lol

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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
I was talking with my boss about a date I'm going on next week with an animator (for movies/TV) and he stopped me and observed that I seemed especially pleased about his profession (I guess my voice raised in pitch or something, lol). He then said to me,

"See, that's where men and women are different. Men don't care what a woman does for a living."

I didn't agree with him...and so I thought I'd ask our Community for their feedback.

So, men - when deciding whether or not to date, and then ultimately move forward with a date into relationship territory, does the woman's profession factor into the equation for you?
Yes

If so, how so?
There are certain professions / occupations that I am not interested at all in dating. Those would be professions that I consider to be hazardous such as a police officer, military, etc. I also no desire to date a lawyer or someone who is in the political scene.

Thanks in advance for an interesting discussion.
As an aside I have found that I seem to get along best with girls who are employed in an ancillary medical profession. The flip side to this is that I have never had any of the doctors, dentists or veterinarians ever reply to me and thus far I have never had a date with a nurse who was working as a nurse. Nor have I ever had any response from anyone who was a medical administrator.
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
I was talking with my boss about a date I'm going on next week with an animator (for movies/tv) and he stopped me and observed that I seemed especially pleased about his profession (I guess my voice raised in pitch or something, lol). He then said to me,

"See, that's where men and women are different. Men don't care what a woman does for a living."

I didn't agree with him...and so I thought I'd ask our Community for their feedback.

So, men - when deciding whether or not to date, and then ultimately move forward with a date into relationship territory, does the woman's profession factor into the equation for you?

If not, why not?

If so, how so?

Thanks in advance for an interesting discussion.

Women care more about what a man does because their is an inherent expectation like he provides for her...even today.

You've seen during this recession where the men have lost their jobs then all of a sudden women leave them because they refuse to take care of him...but its fine if the roles are reversed.


Do I care what she does...yes...to a point...I am looking for someone with intelligence and someone who I dont feel I need to rescue or take care of.

Its more important that she has one...not an issue with her salary. What does turn me off are seeing profiles that say they are a stay at home mom, or they work in retail (even a manger is a turn off)

This is where on the profile the person if they work in retail ned to be a bit more detailed...because you can bve a store mnager of say Walgreens without any education...but you wouldnt become a mamager of a large department store like Macy's without a college education.
 
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Yes, it plays a role. As long as it did not involve promiscuity, anything illegal , or weird hours ,it wouldn't matter all that much. To move forward I need more than looks ,so ambition and intelligence do matter. The exact profession they choose, however, would not matter much.
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So, men - when deciding whether or not to date, and then ultimately move forward with a date into relationship territory, does the woman's profession factor into the equation for you?

If not, why not?

If so, how so?
 
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Your job reflects your social status. Less so for women, but this is still applicable.

Your job can also reflect your intelligence, intellectual curiosity, introversion/extroversion (for certain careers--editor vs. actress, programmer vs. salesperson), creativity, aggression, compassion (nurses, non-profit workers, etc.) and so on. It doesn't always reflect these perfectly accurately, but it can.

Having a career also shows that you have goals/ambition and the means to support yourself.

I would think that any intelligent, well-rounded man would be looking for the same in a woman. Since this would partly be evidenced by her career, I would conclude that this sort of man would be interested in the career his potential partners had.
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
I was talking with my boss about a date I'm going on next week with an animator (for movies/TV) and he stopped me and observed that I seemed especially pleased about his profession (I guess my voice raised in pitch or something, lol). He then said to me,
I would be interested in why your boss made this observation.

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Lori what is your perceptions on your dates occupation and do you see someone who is an animator an especially good catch? Try and look at the profession and not that your guy is in that profession.
 
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It is a little bit disappointing to know men hardly value a woman's occupation. Interesting.
 
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