Confused about dating new woman

Hi all,

I've been dating a new gal for coming up on two months, and I think I'm falling head over heels for her. However, there are a few things about her and the situation that are nagging me in the back of my mind.

For starters, she's 4 months outside of a 3 year relationship.

she proceeds to tell me about her brother-in-law's brother, who she grew up with. She told me she cheated on her last boyfriend with this friend, and that throughout every relationship she's had she's always found herself "going back to him". Then she tells me she's supposed to see this guy in the spring.
My response to this was "Why the hell are you telling me this?", Great question !
She then explained that because this guy is basically family, he'll always be in her life
Legitimate warning signs. YES!! So what do you think? Should I be running away fast, Yes!!or do I need to get out of my own head?No you are reading a lot of giant red flags here.

Thanks for the advice and patience with a long post.

Hi all,

I can't seem to solicit advice without having to make lengthy posts, so please forgive the detail here.

I've been dating a new gal for coming up on two months, and I think I'm falling head over heels for her. However, there are a few things about her and the situation that are nagging me in the back of my mind.

For starters, she's 4 months outside of a 3 year relationship. Ordinarily this would be an automatic deal breaker for me, but we didn't delve into the ex talk until several dates in and she told me that the two of them had broken up a year ago before getting back together, and it was really then that she became emotionally over him. Anyway, I'm nervous about the general time frame and being a rebound, but I don't really have much choice other than taking her word or deciding it's still a deal breaker. I've sort of tabled this concern and just decided to take things slow and see if any other warning signs pop up.

This past weekend we were hanging out and she started talking about how much she really liked me. We haven't officially declared ourselves exclusive but it's obvious things are headed that way. Anyway, after that conversation she proceeds to tell me about her brother-in-law's brother, who she grew up with. She told me she cheated on her last boyfriend with this friend, and that throughout every relationship she's had she's always found herself "going back to him". Then she tells me she's supposed to see this guy in the spring. My response to this was "Why the hell are you telling me this?", and she stopped and admitted it was an inappropriate story and that she shouldn't have said anything. She then explained that because this guy is basically family, he'll always be in her life, but that any romantic involvement between them ended a long time ago. I came really, really close to ending things right then and there, but we had plans to go to an NFL game the next day and I decided to give things some time to think about.

So....now for the advice. My last long term relationship ended quite badly, and I've been living the bachelor life for 2 years now. I'm terrified of getting into another unhealthy relationship, and I'm at the point now where I can't sort out how much of my concerns are due to my own baggage or legitimate warning signs. So what do you think? Should I be running away fast, or do I need to get out of my own head?

Thanks for the advice and patience with a long post.

She's telling you who she is and what she does, run!