721 is offline 721 Post #1  September 24,2010, 5:16pm
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I'm just curious on everyones take on having sex on a first date? I recently have been on dates with two different men and both men wanted/expected sex on the first. Has anyone else experienced this? Please share.
 
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livinagin is offline livinagin Post #2  September 24,2010, 5:25pm
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They all do. But if you give off the vibe that you might, they are probably going to disrespect you.

This is perhaps the single most important reason why I hate online dating. There are too many people that are not really committed to finding a partner and just want to get some.
 
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I have.

In my case, if I am attracted to the date, and wish to see her again, I may want sex. (If I don't, it means lack of attraction.)

In my experience, 80% of women "poof" (even after saying they want to meet again.) So, sex is enjoyable in its own right, and the only reliable indication of interest on her part.

An additional factor, is that I do not consider a situation to be a relationship until intimacy is established.

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(Of note, is that a fair portion of complaints appear about having had sex and then getting dumped.)
 
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wow. I'm beginning to think this questions is getting more common.
 
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Ok. but if you do have sex on the first date what are the chances of having a second date.
 
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721 wrote :
Ok. but if you do have sex on the first date what are the chances of having a second date.
If the sex was through mutual attraction and a mutual sense of excitement and passion about beginning a new relationship, then there is a good chance there will be a second date.

If one of you thinks it is the beginning of a new relationship and the other thinks it is a one night stand, there is no chance of a second date.
 
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721 wrote :
Ok. but if you do have sex on the first date what are the chances of having a second date.

100% In all instances of my experience, it has marked the beginning of a long relationship.

Thankfully, I haven't had the experience of finding sex bad enough to call an end on that basis (though, this is a risk which exists anyway, and I would rather clear it up sooner than later.)
 
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I think few men expect sex on the first date or would think less of you for not having it. But as for wanting it... if you are attractive, of course guys will want sex.
 
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721 wrote :
Ok. but if you do have sex on the first date what are the chances of having a second date.
the bottom line is, don't do anything you are not comfortable with. Just because the men you have run into expect this, they don't set the norms for your life. Make your own decisions.
 
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I think few men expect sex on the first date or would think less of you for not having it. But as for wanting it... if you are attractive, of course guys will want sex.

Yep. I think this pretty much sums it up.

Attraction, desire; this is the core element which makes a romantic relationship unique from a friendship. It is essential.
 
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