2nd date: She told me she has genital warts


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tominski is offline tominski Post #1  September 22,2010, 5:19pm
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I went on two dates with a woman and it went really well. We had great conversations and kissed on the first date. At the end of the 2nd date, we started kissing again, but then she told me she was diagnosed with genital warts. We did make out that night, but with our underwear on. Next day we agreed to meet again on the weekend.

But now I read about this disease and am really worried. Even condoms can't fully protect. I'm wondering if I better just break up, it's probably early enough, so that it's not too painful. Or if I should just meet her as planned on the weekend and talk to her about my worries. I just don't know if this can lead anywhere, especially since we both know that she will be moving away in a few months, so it's not going to be a serious long-term relationship in any case.

I do like her and would actually love being together and being intimate. But that seems really risky. Any thoughts?
 
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Personally, I would not become intimate.

See the person casually, I might. I would look for a partner though, and be clear I would not consider the person. I see it as an unnecessary risk.

That the situation must end soon due to relocation is an additional factor in support of moving on.

If you decide to continue, understand that the reluctance you have now will be had by every future partner you meet. This is likely to severly damage your dating prospects, should you acquire this disease (plus costs of dealing with it.)
 
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if you've googled it, I can't imagine why you are willing to take a chance like that after seeing those pictures.
 
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I think you have to, regretfully, end it. The risks of disease are too great, and the likelihood of heartache when she leaves just makes another key reason not to get romantically involved.
 
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I would not sleep with someone who had an STD unless I saw us being together 20 years from now. Like D_Lion said, your future potential partners will be as concerned about it (or more) as you are right now. Why take the risk?
 
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Given her moving away it isnt worth the risk.
 
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Really wish I had resisted the urge to google...
 
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FruitaBu wrote :
Really wish I had resisted the urge to google...
Well thanks for that! I guess I should take responsibility for my own googling!!!
 
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livinagin wrote :
Well thanks for that! I guess I should take responsibility for my own googling!!!

Scarlet made us do it.
 
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someone's got to be the bad influence.
 
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