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TheProdigy is offline TheProdigy Post #1  September 22,2010, 2:07pm

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I'm starting to wonder, are there any baggage free single women left in the 25-28 age range? With good jobs, from good families, with morals, and who enjoy working out? The bar/club scene just isn't working out. That has been great for finding one night stands, flings, and unattached fun. eHarmony wasn't much better. So much baggage on there. Most were well employed and attractive but were so emotionally dmaged. Seems like all the women on there had either been raped byan uncle or touched by their father, had their fiance's walk away from them at the altar, or were dramatically dumped or cheated on by a boyfriend.

What gives? I'm banging my head against the wall. Where is a man to go to find a moral, active, attractive, single, wholesome woman these days that doesn't come damaged out of the box? I regret all the good ones I let slip away in college. They're all off the market... married with families now. I'm so open to suggestions. I'm tired of the play things and want something real. It's one of the worst things in the world to physically have someone next to you in bed, but in your heart and mind feel as if no one is there.
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you have to be less selective about certain qualifiers you have. (easier said than done, i know)

as far as sexual abuse or emotional damage there is a difference between someone working through their issues successfully and baggage. just because someone has gone through a rough time doesn't automatically mean that it's baggage.
 
 
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PS.

what do you mean by moral or wholesome?
 
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
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what do you mean by moral or wholesome?
Moral and wholesome means the kinds of women you actually look forward to taking home to mom. The kind of women you can close your eyes and envision them as a loving & caring mother.
 
 
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TheProdigy wrote :
I'm starting to wonder, are there any baggage free single women left in the 25-28 age range? With good jobs, from good families, with morals, and who enjoy working out? The bar/club scene just isn't working out. That has been great for finding one night stands, flings, and unattached fun. eHarmony wasn't much better. So much baggage on there. Most were well employed and attractive but were so emotionally dmaged. Seems like all the women on there had either been raped byan uncle or touched by their father, had their fiance's walk away from them at the altar, or were dramatically dumped or cheated on by a boyfriend.

What gives? I'm banging my head against the wall. Where is a man to go to find a moral, active, attractive, single, wholesome woman these days that doesn't come damaged out of the box? I regret all the good ones I let slip away in college. They're all off the market... married with families now. I'm so open to suggestions. I'm tired of the play things and want something real. It's one of the worst things in the world to physically have someone next to you in bed, but in your heart and mind feel as if no one is there.

What do you define as emotionally damaged?

Generally well educated women tend not to look for one night stands. They are intelligent enough to see through that same approach you have used for your successful finds.

If you want moral and wholesome...have you tried the church?
 
 
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TheProdigy wrote :
Moral and wholesome means the kinds of women you actually look forward to taking home to mom. The kind of women you can close your eyes and envision them as a loving & caring mother.

Based on your past relationship history you have shared....have you even gotten to the point of thinking this? One night stands just doesnt cut it.
 
 
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25-28 is an extremely slim age range. Is there a reason why those numbers are important?
 
 
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Perhaps they are looking for moral and wholesome men?

I'm not bragging, but I'm literally fending off dates with a stick right now from intelligent, single, attractive women in a slightly larger age range (24 to maybe 32) that I would definitely introduce to my family.

They're out there, so you must be doing something wrong. I have some guesses.
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Moral and wholesome means the kinds of women you actually look forward to taking home to mom. The kind of women you can close your eyes and envision them as a loving & caring mother.
LOL.

oh, Prodigy.

you do realize, if your sexual exploits that you post about here are true, that you may not be good enough for these moral and wholesome women to take home to their parents?
 
 
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TheProdigy wrote :
Moral and wholesome means the kinds of women you actually look forward to taking home to mom. The kind of women you can close your eyes and envision them as a loving & caring mother.
I have actually found in most cases, the ones that look like they are presentable to parents tend to hide all their weirdness on the inside and are messed up individuals. The ones that show their weirness on the outside tend to be more well rounded individuals that have less hang-ups. Though it is entertaining to take a full goth girl covered in tattoos and peiercings to a family gathering to meet your grandparents, aunts and uncles. Having them all freak out and expect to be knifed only to realize she was extremely polite, considerate and intelligent.

Of course this is a generalization and does not discount there are oddballs and wholesome in all camps.
 
 
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