10 dates, things are great -- what next?


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dietpepsi is offline dietpepsi Post #1  September 20,2010, 8:25pm
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Suggestions on how the female should proceed after 10 dates? How should I act? or say? or encourage? ;-)

Every date has been a lot of fun, he treats me like a lady and we either talk or do activities until 2 or 3 am. (We are in our early 30s, so certainly up way past my bedtime.) On our ~10th date in ~2 mos, we finally kissed after I gave him this 'why haven't you kissed me yet?!' look.

What do I do next? Do I keep going about my business? stay mysterious? make him chase him? Or do I start suggesting things to do? act more like a couple? We talk on the phone 1x/week outside of dates, but email several times a day. When should I ramp up to seeing him regularly?

I've forgotten how to properly start a relationship! (if that's where it's going....)
 
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Glad to hear things are going well for you, to me its all about communication between the two of you, if you feel that you want a relationship after the successful dates you have had with him then ask him how he feels about it and see where it goes. Good Luck!
 
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If you want to see him more often, yes -- ask him out for dates more often.

And I think 10 dates is long enough to have a little talk about where you each see this going. Ask!

Good luck! hope it goes well.
 
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dietpepsi wrote :
What do I do next? Do I keep going about my business? stay mysterious? make him chase him? Or do I start suggesting things to do? act more like a couple? We talk on the phone 1x/week outside of dates, but email several times a day. When should I ramp up to seeing him regularly?
I assume by that you mean "make him chase me". And no, that's about the worst mistake you can make. Unless for some reason you really think he enjoys chasing, I would venture that he is probably sick and tired of the chase and wants a woman that shows genuine interest and isn't afraid of initiating stuff herself.
 
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10 dates and you finally kissed???? Why so long.

If I was him and felt we werent kissing i wouldve ended it a while ago.
 
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