ISearch4Love is offline ISearch4Love Post #1  September 20,2010, 11:23am
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Both guys and girls opinions please!

What is the best thing to do for a first date?

What kind of birthday presents are appropriate for the first birthday with a new bf/gf?

I'm talking about first dates, not first meetings so more than just the typical "meet for coffee" answer.
 
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Three days in a hotel in a city neither one of us knew much about (just another kind of exploration) worked for me.

YMMV.

In re: birthdays...it's the celebration that's important to me...not the stuff...and I generally have a hand in planning the celebratory acts so it's all good.
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all the best first dates i've had have been good because of the person, not the venue.

one of my best first dates was at a TGIF's. one of my worst was at a 5 star japanese resturant with $18 martinis.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
In re: birthdays...it's the celebration that's important to me...not the stuff...and I generally have a hand in planning the celebratory acts so it's all good.
Great answer!
 
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To me the best first date is anything that does not involve sitting and staring at each other across the table holding a follow up interview from the first meet. Go build some joint experiences together whether it's going to a local park, exploring something new, seeing a sports game or an art show. Anything really that let's you start sharing some fun and interesting experiences together. I find that this actually helps so much to transition from awkward strangers to happy dating.

B-day presents - communicate with your partner and know what they want and expect from you. That's the only way you'll ever know the right answer for each person you date. The opinions of strangers are completely irrelevant in this case.
 
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as far as presents- that's hard to say, because it's very individual. or it should be.

but, it's REALLY important you give the person a card. I recently learned this right here on EHa.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
but, it's REALLY important you give the person a card. I recently learned this right here on EHa.
You must be reading the same threads I'm reading!
 
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I like the comment about having something to do on the first date. My most recent involved a walk along the lake, just chatting. It was better than the brunch we shared to begin the date with.

As for the gift, it's really the thought that counts, especially early on in the relationship. I try to do something inexpensive, but meaningful based on what I already know about the person.
 
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I agree with all the comments about having something to do. If all you do is go out to eat what are you going to talk about afterwards?

"I like the way you chew your steak!"
 
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ISearch4Love wrote :
Both guys and girls opinions please!

What is the best thing to do for a first date?
My favorite thing is dinner at a restaurant on the ocean and then going for a long walk on the beach after.

What kind of birthday presents are appropriate for the first birthday with a new bf/gf?Small bottle of perfume or cologne. Find out what kinds of scents she likes, floral, musky etc.

I'm talking about first dates, not first meetings so more than just the typical "meet for coffee" answer.
I love to walk and hold hands so anytime I can do that with someone special is fabulous.
 
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