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Leafs_Girl is offline Leafs_Girl Post #1  June 8,2008, 3:52pm
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So I met a match I received from EHarmony this past weekend. We chatted for approx. 6 weeks before meeting. Early on in our inital chats, I was upfront with him about being a curvy girl.....he made a joke then said he usually dated petite women and we never talked about it again. We chatted on the phone quite a bit and thro yahoo messenger and text messages....we live about 60 miles from eachother so we chose to meet up at a half way point inbetween. We had a few drinks and talked for about 3 hours....he made a few comments about women with 'hot bodies' that kind of gave me the impression that this date was going to result in a friendship and not a romance...he walked me to my car and we chatted a bit more outside...we said our goodbyes and hugged.





I emailed him shortly after to thank him and apologize for being quiet but that i had had a long week...he said its okay it was a good time.


How do i broach the subject of 'are we just friends' without comming off too strong? Do I wait for him to make the next call/text/email and see if he brings it up? I just feel like we hit it off and want to know his thoughts but am not sure how to approach it.
 
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Leafs_Girl, wrote :

So I met a match I received from EHarmony this past weekend. We chatted for approx. 6 weeks before meeting. Early on in our inital chats, I was upfront with him about being a curvy girl.....he made a joke then said he usually dated petite women and we never talked about it again. We chatted on the phone quite a bit and thro yahoo messenger and text messages....we live about 60 miles from eachother so we chose to meet up at a half way point inbetween. We had a few drinks and talked for about 3 hours....he made a few comments about women with 'hot bodies' that kind of gave me the impression that this date was going to result in a friendship and not a romance...he walked me to my car and we chatted a bit more outside...we said our goodbyes and hugged.





I emailed him shortly after to thank him and apologize for being quiet but that i had had a long week...he said its okay it was a good time.


How do i broach the subject of 'are we just friends' without comming off too strong? Do I wait for him to make the next call/text/email and see if he brings it up? I just feel like we hit it off and want to know his thoughts but am not sure how to approach it.
Hmmm.....maybe just ask? Not too sure
 
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Red Sox Girl is offline Red Sox Girl Post #3  June 11,2008, 4:20pm

It's almost time folks.....

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To be honest, if I was with a guy who I was meeting for the first time & he started talking about other women and referring to their hot bodies, I wouldn't be wanting to see him again even if he wanted to see me.
 
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Ditto! We have enough esteem issues without some guy adding to them!
 
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Red Sox Girl is offline Red Sox Girl Post #5  June 11,2008, 4:29pm

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Too right Kiki! Leafs - you need a fab guy who talks about YOUR hot body!
 
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Red Sox Girl,138233 wrote :

To be honest, if I was with a guy who I was meeting for the first time & he started talking about other women and referring to their hot bodies, I wouldn't be wanting to see him again even if he wanted to see me.
I understand what you're saying Red Sox, but it was more harmless I think then anything. We were talking about Movies and our favourite actors/actresses and he made some comments regarding the actresses bodies.





I have been reading the website alot in the last few days, and Im curious to see if JavaJava responds, she seems to always give good advice.
 
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If he's interested he will let you know - you can bet the farm on it, but don't make too much of it if he doesn't not everyone is everyone else's type.
 
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Red Sox Girl,138233 wrote :

To be honest, if I was with a guy who I was meeting for the first time & he started talking about other women and referring to their hot bodies, I wouldn't be wanting to see him again even if he wanted to see me.
Red Sox Girl...I would have to agree with you. However, I do think its entirely possible that Leafs date did not mean anything by the comments as she did mention to him prior to the date that she was a curvy girl.
 
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Don't contact him about it at all. If he wants to see you again, he will call and ask you out again.


Instead, work on other matches, get out and meet other guys. Don't think about him and don't expect him to ever call or email again.
 
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SactoDoug,138264 wrote :

Don't contact him about it at all. If he wants to see you again, he will call and ask you out again.


Instead, work on other matches, get out and meet other guys. Don't think about him and don't expect him to ever call or email again.
Thats just it though, am I crazy after one date to be this interested in him? when im not even sure he feels the same??
 
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