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Since we already explored the top 5 male turnoffs, maybe we should talk about the top 5 female turnoffs. I'll start with my top 5 turnoffs:

1)You are "sort of" divorced. This is "sort of" like being pregnant, either you are, or you aren't. This information is usually not revealed until the first or second date. Fess up from the start. In fact, why are you on eHarmony to begin with?

2)Your pics are old...I mean so old I couldn't tell who you were when we first met.

3)You talk non-stop about your ex during our first meeting. It's ok to talk about it, but it's better left for later in the relationship.

4)You "rate women" and will only date a nine or ten. Yet, if women were to "rate" you, you would be about a five with all things taken into consideration.

5)When we meet, you have nothing to say...I mean nothing. The silence is deafening. If you are not a natural at conversation, please think of some topics you may want to discuss before the date. This makes it a much better date for both people!
- January 7th, 2008, 06:28 pm
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1) Drinks too much 2) Rides a motorcycle 3) Overweight yet wants skinny person 4) Nothing to offer besides going to dinner 5) Travels all the time
- January 8th, 2008, 12:28 pm
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1- Gambling
2- Curses all the time
3- Talking about your ex, or asking about mine on the first date.
4- Morbid obesity
5- Drinking too much
- January 8th, 2008, 09:39 pm
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I'd also like to add one more... that they're so desperate that they wont give you space to breathe. every second you're online they're IMing you, they call repeatedly even after leaving a message, then they email you to say they left you a voicemail... chill out dude! For me, the obsessive need you have to always be in contact with me is going to make me NOT want to talk to you. Especially if we haven't even met yet. Think about it. Put the shoe on the other foot.... How would you feel? I just wonder why I can't meet a guy that's a happy medium. Somewhere between the no personality aloof guy who never calls and this mess who wont leave me the **** alone.
- January 10th, 2008, 05:16 am
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Thank you NYCGIRL77! I totally agree. I've had men who call me and e-mail me and leave me a text all in the same day - and this is after a couple of dates! I've even had messages that say things like, "I'm worried about you," from a guy I barely know. Really? I've managed to survive the first 25 years of my life without you checking in on me, and my family doesn't even call me that much. I've had several dates from eharmony ruined by guys who just couldn't play it cool. I may have been able to develop feelings for them, but with the constant calls/e-mails/texts, all I wanted to do was run away!
- January 11th, 2008, 06:43 pm
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I totally understand. I just went out with someone who I'm not sure about and he called me two times today...and I just wanted some time to think about things. I'm just not sure about moving on. But it's hard when you don't even get a day to think about it.
- January 12th, 2008, 02:15 pm
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Hello I thank you here for telling examples of poor behavior. Iam not a professional date and have been out of the dateing scene quite awhile . For many men the cold feel of the electronic communication mode may leave many of us so deep in limbo we could use a little more patiece and empathy not to mention good old fashioned answers !!
- January 19th, 2008, 11:51 pm
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1. There IS one thing WORSE than having nothing to say -- and that is having ONLY NEGATIVE THINGS to say. Don't tell me about your bad day, your jerky boss, your debt, your bout with the flu...etc. If you don't have anything good say, just stay quiet. 2. Poor table manners. It's simple: chew with your mouth closed. 3. Calculating the dinner check as converstaion - i.e. asking me how much my meal was and then continuing to add it all up OUT LOUD and delivering the final tally loudly before the waitress delivers the real check. 4. Road rage 5. Using racial epithets to disparage other drivers, dinner goers, concert goers...strangers on the street.
- January 23rd, 2008, 07:47 pm
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Riding a motorcycle is a dealbreaker? Please explain that one, it's a lot like saying owning a truck is bad.
- January 24th, 2008, 10:07 am
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I went out once on an eharmony date and was turned off because this guy felt he had to advise me on every comment I made. Granted he was 10 years older than me, but I started to feel as though he was my father or something. If I said I was tired, he'd say "Oh don't work so hard, you need to learn to relax, take it easy etc... I didn't like that at all. I agree the tendency for guys to want a supermodel and when you look at them, they're no Brad Pitt or Tyson Beckford. guys who communciate with you all the way to the open communication stage, then suddenly just fade away.
- January 24th, 2008, 03:42 pm
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