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N0va is offline N0va Post #1  September 3,2010, 1:04pm
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*High school senior*

There's this girl I like. She's outgoing with most people and I'm shy around people I like. I sit next to her in one of my classes, we're quiet and just talk about school, do we have to turn this in, can you help me on this worksheet, etc because we don't know much about each other. She gave me the stare last year during a group project one time but she sat a few rows above me so I have no place to really know each other because I saw her in only one class. During that project, I was reading something outloud and she was looking at me when there was 2 other guys in the group. When I was done, she was still looking at me then said "uhhh, *shook her head* then looked down and started reading her part only looking at me.

Well...the point is she's a magnet to other guys.

This one guy looks at her everyday, he does the "I obviously like you stare". I want to say something like, dude, that's getting annoying, you do that everyday, we get it. And another guy compliments her.

This is how it goes. The guy that does the obvious stare, he tells her, "Why do you keep looking at me". I KNOW she doesn't look at him unless he does his routine. He stands up and looks her way until she notices. The way she answers him is by saying, "It's just because you're so attractive" in a sarcasm way. It sounded like to me anyways.

As for the other guy that compliments her. Obviously likes her, she compliments him back. He sounds like he studders and all when he says Thank you.

I mean, she sits right next to me and she decides to do all this when I am between this?. Alot of guys like her too. I'm a shy guy unless I know a person. I think she's shy around me because she shifts her body towards me, she flips her hair like 3 to 5 times within the class period (50 or so minutes), and I'm not completely sure but I think she looks at me whenever I'm not looking straight at her. From the side of my eyes anyways. We look at each other sometimes whenever I walk past her in lunch too. I may be over analyzing things when I comes to that but I just can't tell if she's getting into my head or not.

If she is trying to make me jealous, it's not working. My mood was more like "I want to call you out more than ask you out".

Any advice/tips appreciated
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astro42 is offline astro42 Post #2  September 3,2010, 1:10pm
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Dude,

You posted this like two or three weeks ago. You're over analyzing this. It must be freaking torture.

Just ask her out already.

Or maybe I'm wrong and this is a different girl? In which case: ask her out already.

No amount of divination on our part is going to help you here. If she's interested, she will say yes, if not, you'll live. I promise lightning will not strike you on your way home because of this.
 
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N0va is offline N0va Post #3  September 3,2010, 1:17pm
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astro42 wrote :
Dude,

You posted this like two or three weeks ago. You're over analyzing this. It must be freaking torture.

Just ask her out already.

Or maybe I'm wrong and this is a different girl? In which case: ask her out already.

No amount of divination on our part is going to help you here. If she's interested, she will say yes, if not, you'll live. I promise lightning will not strike you on your way home because of this.
Yeah it was like 2 weeks ago. It literally took me a week to calm down and have strong eye contact when talking to her. I kinda made it obvious I liked her the first week. As for the 2nd week, I wasn't in that class for a day and we went to the computer lab for 3 days for current event articles where I didn't talk to her that much. She was talking to everyone around her.

I'm not going to ask someone out whom I don't talk to that much yet. I don't even have her number yet even though I never asked her. I only have her in one class and it's a very boring class. Notes, quizzes, tests.
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astro42 wrote :
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If she's interested, she will say yes, if not, you'll live. I promise lightning will not strike you on your way home because of this.
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Correct. if she is not interested, you will feel as small as an ant every time you see her. That's all. The good news? After high school, your outlook will change and her rejection will be another, "oh goody, more beer money for me".
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Until you get up the nerve to at least talk to her and stop letting obstacles get in your way, there's no magic pill that will make this possible. I don't know what else to tell you.
 
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Do you see this girl anywhere else in school except for this class and the hall?

I used to be a girl, and I always thought (still do, actually), that shyness in a boy was quite attractive.

If you catch her looking at you, maybe she is interested in you, but she may not know how to approach you either.

Maybe you can start making comments about some movies you've seen, or places you've gone, that she may be interested in? Not long conversations, just little tidbits and see how she reacts?

I'm old enough to be this kids mother.
 
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"oh goody, more beer money for me".
Funny!
 
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Hey Nova, personally speaking I was not much good at talking to women really in HS either. I'm 27 now. Definitely don't look at HS as your end all point. If you cannot simply ask her out and want to know her, then you will have to interact more closely. If she does give you hazy or dreamy stares, flip her hair when shes near you, she may find interest or yes, its possible she teases. But approaching her with "tease" in your mind won't help you.

Try to sit by or near her in the cafeteria, say hi, ask how her day is...by the way, if she leans toward you, thats a possible sign of interest. If she doesn't try to leave quickly, brush your conversation away, or talk about a boyfriend, then ask her about sitting together more or hanging out. At this point, if she approaches you more or welcomes yours, you'll have to either ask her out or get her number to then ask her in private or be satisfied as a possible friend.

Best I can offer you. I actually had a strong high school thing, but it was with a girl I hardly knew from another school rather than the ones I knew well at mine. So its no easy solution, it depends on your readiness to interest her first I'm afraid. Best of luck
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astro42 wrote :
Until you get up the nerve to at least talk to her and stop letting obstacles get in your way, there's no magic pill that will make this possible. I don't know what else to tell you.
I do talk to her....I'm not going to ask someone out if I barely know her still. I only talk to her in one class in which I have in her. I haven't asked her for her phone number yet because I feel we haven't known each other too well yet. I'm not a player, I don't go asking people out within a week or two.

She usually starts the conversations but I do pick up some of my own. We talk about random stuff but mainly about school because we don't know each other well enough yet.

It took me about a month and a half to ask my first girlfriend a few years ago.

You're not answering my question. This has nothing to do with me asking her out, it clearly states that I want to know if she is doing this on purpose to make me jealous and ask her out or is she the attention grabber.
 
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Breezy1 wrote :
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I'm old enough to be this kids mother.
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Not at 32 you are not
 
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