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socalgal55 is offline socalgal55 Post #11  August 30,2010, 7:39pm
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chimerical wrote :
My mom began dating again less than a year after my dad passed away, but in that case, it was a death after several years of illness. She didn't seem to have any problems that a date would notice, imo. I think, be sensitive, but don't treat him any differently than any other date. For some, a year may seem short; for others, it seems long.
I just got off the phone with him. He was very easy to talk with. He did bring up his wife and she had a long illness so that's probably why he's dating sooner rather than later. I'm his 4th date. He seems very sweet and definitely acts like a gentleman on the phone.
 
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Botenmaru wrote :
Scenario 1: people like me, invested all I have in a relationship, I am passionated, devoted, it took me 5 years to get over a sudden death, because I didn't have time to prepare for it.

Scenario 2: surviving spouse of a terminal ill patient, they have the time to prepare, surviving spouse often taking the time to think over the worst scenario, what will they do, when they preform their last duty as a faithful spouse, they have enough peace in heart to move on, so I am not surprise to see many surviving spouse able to move on after their love one die to a long term illness.

My sincere condolence.
I'm so sorry for what you've been through, I can't even imagine. He's scenario 2, she had a long illness.
 
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I am sorry, I couldn't make my post sound more poetic, 5 years of grieve took the inspiration out of me, now I am redefining myself through new experience in life.
No worries, you've been through a lot, grief takes as long as it's going to take. I recently lost my grandmother and my dad, it was very hard but no where as hard as losing a spouse so quickly. You'll get your inspiration back, it's just going to take some time I suppose. Much success to you.
 
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It is all good, I am glade able to help you out on definite the situations, my mom is a surviving spouse, she had her chance to say good bye to my dad and the time to prepare for his departure, which give her the serenity to move on. But my mom never dated after my dad pass away, having platonic friend yes, but never to the point of romance
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