confusedgal is offline confusedgal Post #1  August 30,2010, 3:35am
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I've been dating my guy for 3 months exclusively, but we've been fighting a lot the past 3 weekends. This past weekend was a big one and I decided to go home whereas he went out and got so drunk he says he doesn't remember most of the night or his actions. One of my friends was out and said he was hitting on one of her friends and asked for her number. When I confronted him on it, he said his foot was out the door for our relationship due to all our fighting and he even though he doesn't remember asking for her number that he probably did because she was attractive. Before I found all this out we talked about taking a hard look at our relatinship and really try and work through it, but now that I found all this out I think I'd be a schmuck if I do try. I'm getting mixed things from my friends - some saying if I went out that night I might have gone flirting as well since I was so unhappy that night, others saying that if he'd get a girls number when we weren't officially broken up that he's a jerk.

I guess I'm looking for an unbiased opinion.....
 
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confusedgal wrote :
I've been dating my guy for 3 months exclusively, but we've been fighting a lot the past 3 weekends
Take a look at what the arguements are about.. do you a see pattern? are arguing about the same old stupid stuff, is it just miscommunication, jealousy, what are the issues?

Whether he got a girls number or not, that type of behavior is not welcome in my world..
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he said his foot was out the door for our relationship due to all our fighting
Tell him.. don't let the door hit ya, where the good lord split ya!
 
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Dating just three months you don't have that much of a relationship. If it's already this difficult and you are both making each other this miserable it's time to part company and move on to more compatible people. At three months things simply should not be this difficult - it's a big clue that you are not right for each other.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
Dating just three months you don't have that much of a relationship. If it's already this difficult and you are both making each other this miserable it's time to part company and move on to more compatible people. At three months things simply should not be this difficult - it's a big clue that you are not right for each other.
I agree. 3 months is just about the right time for things to stop being so shiny new that everyone is still on best behavior and the real person starts to show. What you are going through is most likely real incompatibilities that are now surfacing now that you are past that initial honeymoon phase. I think it's time to move on to something better, which shouldn't be too difficult if you are now fighting every weekend and he is hitting on other women.
 
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thanks - you all are right. I figured that he is showing his true colors and so early on. Dumped him today. thanks for letting me know what I really truly already knew
 
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confusedgal wrote :
Dumped him today.

lol that guy must be feeling like a schmuck today, pretty sure he didn't see this coming
 
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confusedgal wrote :
thanks - you all are right. I figured that he is showing his true colors and so early on. Dumped him today. thanks for letting me know what I really truly already knew
Aww..You killed your own thread! lol

I guess you made a decision. But, to answer your question, yes, I think you would be foolish to get back with him, unless he has shown you that he is willing to respect you as well as the relationship, not to mention, you being proactive in curbing your temperment and respecting him as well as the relationship.

I wish you well..

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i dont think there is enough information here to decide if you should have dumped him or not.

i think it depends on what the fights were about and how you fought. i hate to break it to people, but fights are a part of a relationship, it doesnt mean at ALL that it is a bad relationship if there are fights.

i believe his story. i think he was being 100% honest with you and i dont believe HE was being a schmuck, i think he was probably hurt and trying to soothe his ego a bit.

sounds like you made your decision, but idk!
 
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