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sweetkisser is offline sweetkisser Post #1  August 28,2010, 10:36pm
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Just out of curiousity, has anyone ever regreted ending with a match after going on a first date? Maybe you should've given him/her a second chance.
 
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Unless the date went horribly bad, or there was an immediate feeling of non-chemistry, I will usually go on or plan a second date. Since first dates may sometimes be over shadowed by jitters and nervousness, or by overwhelming excitement, I find that a second date helps me to figure out if I'd like to see this person more (and the same goes for him about me). Second dates can be like second chances in a way.

In the past year I've only NOT gone on a second date with one person and that was the worst date I've ever been on. Thinking back, I laugh at the date now and can say that I do not regret not giving the date a second chance.
 
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sweetkisser wrote :
Just out of curiosity, has anyone ever regretted ending with a match after going on a first date? Maybe you should've given him/her a second chance.
Yes.
 
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sweetkisser wrote :
Just out of curiousity, has anyone ever regreted ending with a match after going on a first date? Maybe you should've given him/her a second chance.
All the time...*sigh*
 
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legend29 wrote :
All the time...*sigh*
I've only had one and he and I both agreed that we weren't right for one another. If it was just a so so date and we had important things in common I would definitely give him another chance.

I was set-up on a blind date by one of my friends over 30 years ago. The date was not great and I figured he felt that as well. He called a week later to see if I would like to try it again, I did and we were together for over a year.
 
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I was set-up on a blind date by one of my friends over 30 years ago. The date was not great and I figured he felt that as well. He called a week later to see if I would like to try it again, I did and we were together for over a year.
Nice date-story! (*smile*)

As I get older, it seems I have become fickle...restless...indecisive.

It seems I'm constantly making bad choices with men. The men I'm probably supposed to be with I don't give a chance...and the men that I should stay away from I don't see (or I ignore) the red flags.

Which is why I have been sitting still lately and spending time alone trying to figure out what I want, and if I even want a relationship at this stage in my life. Maybe I will become what I fear most...a middle-aged woman that is set in her ways and is better off not in a relationship...but I sincerely hope that is not true.
 
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sweetkisser wrote :
Just out of curiousity, has anyone ever regreted ending with a match after going on a first date? Maybe you should've given him/her a second chance.
No. However, I have regretted not only meeting/going out with some people, but even communicating with them. I felt like my time was wasted and my kindness was underappreciated. Why regret ending something that I chose to end? There was a reason for ending it.

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For me, no.

When I reject someone it is for very serious incompatibilities, which are determined with clear data.
 
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sweetkisser wrote :
Just out of curiousity, has anyone ever regreted ending with a match after going on a first date? Maybe you should've given him/her a second chance.
I think regret is too strong of a word. There are some matches that looking back were neither bad nor good and maybe things would have gotten better had we continued, but, I don't regret them.

What I do regret are the first dates that never happened. Some online, but, much more in person when I was young, shy, and totally clueless. Those really hurt because they were great girls that I totally enjoyed their company and I just wasn't picking up on the signals.
 
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Of course I do. But then I try to remember why I ended it and remind myself that I did it for a good reason.
 
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