Date seemed to go well, but never heard from him again. What gives?


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It really depends on the specific man-in-question. There are gentlemen who would think the worse if a woman offered to split on the initial dates, and gentlemen, that as Emme pointed out, would lose interest if she didn't offer. Both of those scenarios point to a rigid personality; after all, we aren't mindreaders. Didn't a poster remark once that it's healthy to have some wriggle room?

Interesting comments by Bwit and Psg. Dr. Warren and the authors of The Rules (ok, don't freak out; I won't judge you for reading military history or graphic novels) are agreed on the advice to not reveal trivial bad habits to dates/matches until they are in love with you - but bigger facts, reveal by the third or fourth date, eg, you are a recovered alcoholic or have MS/MD. They have a right to know the big stuff reasonably quickly.

Psg's comments about aloofness registering as a lack of interest ring true. It honestly wouldn't occur to me to touch a man's hand on a first or second date, but I'd probably like it if he flirted that way. For people who come off as shy or aloof, clear communication can help, conveying to their date that they had a wonderful time and would love to see them again.

P.S. The first three dates should be light and breezy.
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The poster who mentioned that a fellow she knows doesn't like a woman's front teeth reminds me of the radio psychologist Dr. Tara Fields, of the now defunct KPIX radio, alluding to the Seinfeld episode where Jerry liked everything about his new girlfriend, except the way she ate her peas, so he broke up with her.

And who can forget the Friends episode in which Chandler couldn't get past the tiny smidge of mascara in his date's eye?
 
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