lunabeach is offline lunabeach Post #1  August 4,2010, 5:08pm
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What experiences have people had with planning a pretty much all day event with someone as a first meet (we'll be doing something one on one first, then with a group for the rest of the day)?

It sounds fun, but I've only ever met for a couple hours and wanted to see what all you experts out there thought.
 
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Mine have often involved a drive to an activity, such that the driving and activity time consumed the daylight hours.

Examples are skiing, boating, a driving trip.

I consider these ideal, as after dinner, after a full day ...

Well, lets just say the relationship is definitively underway at that point.

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For me personally, I would not have a group activity (absent some unusual, compelling reason to.)
 
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I've had success with meeting someone for golf (which takes a long time) and then extending it for a meal, and then drinks afterwards. Just didn't want to go home...

But then again, I golf with total strangers I am paired with by the starter all the time. So I tend not to think of golf as one of those things you only do with people you know well.
 
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It sounds like you're already committed so I wish you the best. I just hope that 1/2 hour into the date you find that you don't particularly like each other. That will make your all day date seem like an all year date.
 
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I dunno... I would think people who meet over the internet should have a shorter first date, to see if they like each other and both want to pursue, than do the full day thing.
 
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I would not suggest this sort of thing as a first date. A first date should be one on one time spent getting to know one another.

My experience has been when the first date is an extremely long one that the long term success is rare and the relationship will usually fizzle after a few weeks at the most.

Since you have planned a day long date with multiple activities including a group of friends what will happen if after your initial meeting you decide that you don't like her, do you end the date then? Could you end the date then? Or maybe she decides that she is not interested in you do you go to your group of friends alone where they are expecting to be meeting your date? There are going to embarrassing questions.
 
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I also think a first date should be a short meeting. At least at start and can expand into something more if there is mutual interest. I typically do coffee or drinks, so that if there is no connection at all for either side they can bow out of more when it is suggested. If that coffee turns to dinner and then turns to drinks or walking around somewhere, then that says a lot more than planning something long.
 
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Is there a way out if it doesn't go well?

Personally can't imagine anything worse than knowing you have to spend the day with someone and realizing within the first five minutes that you really don't like them at all IRL.
 
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Thanks, all - I'll definitely take it into account. It's something I could leave if I wanted to, which leaves it all a bit more open ended.
 
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It could be really good or really bad. Really really bad.

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