How often do you communicate with your date after the 3rd date?


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Almost Everyday (phone, email, text, FB, skype) 4 50.00%
3-5 times a week (phone, email, text, FB, skype) 3 37.50%
once or twice a week (phone, email, text, FB, skype) 0 0%
Less than once a week (phone, email, text, FB, skype) 1 12.50%
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windsurfing is offline windsurfing Post #1  August 4,2010, 7:40am
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I've reading that some people communicate everyday on the phone! This made me wonder if this is average.
 
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JarMD80 is offline JarMD80 Post #2  August 4,2010, 7:45am
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The girl I'm dating and I talk every other day on the phone and we talk via email when required, it works well for both of us, we are not smothering one another and it gives her the one day to herself that she needs, I was in a relationship that we talked on the phone everyday and it got old.
 
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It depends on the person. Some people are more communicative than others.

The answer here is...*drum roll please*, the pace that works for both of you.

If one person is comfortable talking every day, and the other only once a week. Then there should be a compromise of maybe 2 or 3 times a week. However, if one or the other is unwilling to bend on this, than, there really shouldn't be a 4th date.
 
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Varies from person to person. Some people need more, some people need less, but ultimately there are no norms or rules about it. All that matters is what works for the two people involved.
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #5  August 4,2010, 8:23am
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By the third date with my now girlfriend of 8 months we were communicating every day by phone or texting each other. Some people just communicate more than others, I tend to text my friends almost daily and am very active on Facebook and Twitter so I talk to a lot of people.
 
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This is a very individual thing, hopefully your match will tell you what s/he likes in the way of communication.

I am not one for idle chit chat on the phone. If the communication is via e-mail then I will respond to each e-mail if we happen to have an exchange going with a back and forth everyday fine, if it is less frequently fine also.

Some while back I dated a girl where we got together in person two or sometimes three times a week. Would call to coordinate the dates, so that would be maybe two calls a week. She went to Zumba and then the gym twice a week, getting home rather late in the evening and I figured that she would be tired so I did not call on those days. She never mentioned that she wanted me to call every day nor did she call me. However when she broke up with me one of the reasons was that I did not call her every day. Oh, well
 
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I never made it to a 2nd date, so I wouldn't know!
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #8  August 4,2010, 1:17pm
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Usually by date 2 or 3 you learn enough to know if this person has a chance with you...thus you would have 2 different situations...

1. It has no hope...thus no communication

2. There is some hope but you want to learn more so you maintain whatever communication pattern you have had.

3. You two are really hitting it off...this would result in the two of you talking pretty regularly ..almost daily and depending on schedule and distance you get together 1-3 times a week for dates or just visiting each others place.
 
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