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I was going through my matches on another site and came across this profile. No photo, nothing much more than what I'm going to copy and paste.

Synopsis of what he wrote:
Trust me and I'll trust you. Give me love and you'll be treated like a princess. Accept me as I am, and I'll change into your perfect match. Give me a chance. I don't want drama.


Now, does this sound tempting? To me, no. I don't want a guy who will "change" for me. Maybe I'm wrong, but compromise and adjustments are a part of any relationship. Do you really have to say this up front? In a profile?

I am reminded of the song "I can love you like that" by John Michael Montgomery. Just because someone "wants" to love you doesn't mean you have to "let" them if you don't feel the same way. BTW, I loved that song and knew all the words. I then actually listened to the words many years later and think it's the mantra for many wimpy guys.

OK, so folks. Do you want someone that says "I'll change for you" right up front? Does it make you smile or cringe?

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Well, his spelling is atrocious, for starters. And the message that he's going to change.....when do I stop laughing?
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
I was going through my matches on another site and came across this profile. No photo, nothing much more than what I'm going to copy and paste.

What he wrote:
I can say many things of me but tha most important thing is "trust me and I trust in you ,love me and I going to made you my princes. acept me like I am and I going to change to be a perfec match for you just give me an oportunity.but no drama.


Now, does this sound tempting? To me, no. I don't want a guy who will "change" for me. Maybe I'm wrong, but compromise and adjustments are a part of any relationship. Do you really have to say this up front? In a profile?

I am reminded of the song "I can love you like that" by John Michael Montgomery. Just because someone "wants" to love you doesn't mean you have to "let" them if you don't feel the same way. BTW, I loved that song and knew all the words. I then actually listened to the words many years later and think it's the mantra for many wimpy guys.

OK, so folks. Do you want someone that says "I'll change for you" right up front? Does it make you smile or cringe?
Sounds like a real catch.
 
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I'd suspect he's a scam.

But if not ... he has no clue about what a relationship is. Cringe!
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
I was going through my matches on another site and came across this profile. No photo, nothing much more than what I'm going to copy and paste.

What he wrote:
I can say many things of me but tha most important thing is "trust me and I trust in you ,love me and I going to made you my princes. acept me like I am and I going to change to be a perfec match for you just give me an oportunity.but no drama.


Now, does this sound tempting? To me, no. I don't want a guy who will "change" for me. Maybe I'm wrong, but compromise and adjustments are a part of any relationship. Do you really have to say this up front? In a profile?

I am reminded of the song "I can love you like that" by John Michael Montgomery. Just because someone "wants" to love you doesn't mean you have to "let" them if you don't feel the same way. BTW, I loved that song and knew all the words. I then actually listened to the words many years later and think it's the mantra for many wimpy guys.

OK, so folks. Do you want someone that says "I'll change for you" right up front? Does it make you smile or cringe?


Are you interested in relocating to the shores of Africa?
 
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OK, so folks. Do you want someone that says "I'll change for you" right up front? Does it make you smile or cringe?
Cringe. I'm afraid they'll resent the change and use it against me later.
 
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This guy isn't a scam artist. I can spot those a mile away. This guy is just clueless IMO.
 
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This guy isn't a scam artist. I can spot those a mile away. This guy is just clueless IMO.
Wow, I would have totally pegged this as a sc?mmer.

The spelling is bad, the wording is wrong, the sentence structure is horrible... It totally smacks of sc?mmer.

Heck, even the "going to make you my princess", is totally out of their playbook as well.
 
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While everyone should be ready to change things about themselves (as we all are "works in progress" imho), this just sounds overboard desperate
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :

What he wrote:
I can say many things of me but tha most important thing is "trust me and I trust in you ,love me and I going to made you my princes. acept me like I am and I going to change to be a perfec match for you just give me an oportunity.but no drama.


Now, does this sound tempting? To me, no. I don't want a guy who will "change" for me. Maybe I'm wrong, but compromise and adjustments are a part of any relationship. Do you really have to say this up front? In a profile?
just write back:
that soundz good Ill need about 1 thouznad dollas up front and pleaz make that in unmoked bills...but no drama ..

See if he responds.
 
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