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OverAnalyzer is offline OverAnalyzer Post #1  August 1,2010, 1:25pm
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So there's this guy who emails me sporadically (pof) and we are having one-line conversation. Boring. When I ask him an easy, direct question, he avoids it and wants to meet. He doesn't i-m. He just sent an email and wants to know if I want to meet right now.

Sounds a little think twice to me.

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Easy - if you are interested, meet him. Somewhere public and safe, of course. If you are not interested, let it go. Done!
 
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Red, I have no idea if I'm interested, he hasn't said enough to know anything.

Maybe I just solved this.

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I prefer to meet sooner, myself.

I find it impossible to determine "interest" prior to meeting.
 
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OverAnalyzer wrote :
Red, I have no idea if I'm interested, he hasn't said enough to know anything.

Maybe I just solved this.

thanks.
LOL - funny. Sometimes just asking a question gives me the answer!
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I prefer to meet sooner, myself.

I find it impossible to determine "interest" prior to meeting.
okay, I get that, but don't you want to have some conversation before meeting? You need something to go on, right? Not just a profile and unanswered questions.
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If the person is local then i would not hesitate for a second to meet them.

I might be inclined to meet out for a drink or 2 if we hadn't communicated at all.

Might depend on the type of area in which you live though.

This might be a challenge in a small town. I don't know. I don't live in one.

If we are talking about a suburban or urban area then I would see no reason to not meet the person.
 
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[QUOTE=OverAnalyzer;1061635]Red, I have no idea if I'm interested, he hasn't said enough to know anything.


You have every right to find out the basics about someone before meeting them. Don't be pressured to conform to his time line. If he won't answer the most basic questions, close him and move on. Tone and voice inclination mean a lot to me, so it's important to speak over the phone.
 
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I generally agree it is easy to just go ahead and meet someone in a public place.

But I would have some reservations about meeting a match who I never had more than one-liner communications with, who appeared to be deliberately evading answering simple and direct questions, and who wished to meet right away.

Go with your gut instincts on this, but my instincts would have me decline an offer to meet based on what you have stated. If your match is unable to communicate on such a basic level through emails and such, then consider closing him out an moving on to other prospects.
 
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OverAnalyzer wrote :
okay, I get that, but don't you want to have some conversation before meeting? You need something to go on, right? Not just a profile and unanswered questions.

Once I send the first questions, I am already willing to meet.

I fail, utterly, to understand the point of trying to screen people (or, even more senseless, "build a relationship") over the phone.

I also have zero desire to talk to someone I don't know (which I don't, since I haven't met them), or talk to someone I can't look in the eye.
 
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