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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #11  July 31,2010, 3:12pm
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The problem here, is that declining his hospitality is something I do not think would go over well.
Given the theoretical situation as stated (that she has no interest in *any* physical relationship at this time), I'd say it is the preferable action over accepting his hospitality and then putting herself in a position to have to decline his advances (outside of her comfort-zone and on his home-turf). It is a basic risk-assessment ...plan for the best, expect the worst.

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Seriously, would you keep a woman at that point? I probably would not.
Honestly? ...I'd probably let her get away with it once, the first time, in the very early stages of dating (because I understand a woman's need for security), but past a certain point? ...no, probably not. At that point, I'd have assume it is because *she* has expectations and no interest in finding out if I have the same one.
 
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itsabeatutifulday wrote :
mean I am dessert???? I have gone out with a guy 3 (1 first meet and 2 dates) times, seems nice like a gentleman. He has invited me to dinner at his house on Sunday, very casual, just grilling out steaks and my favorite bottle of wine. I accepted as it sounded nice to chat and be in less formal setting than a restaurant. But I am now wondering if i am being naive and he is expecting much more. I like him, but I am definitely not ready to take that step yet. What is the best way to handle? Thanks so much,
Hmm, if you were to have invited him to your house for dinner would you be expecting him to stay the night? Works both ways you know.
 
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If it is a dinner for 2, then yes, you as a dessert is on the menu. However, if it is a get together he is having with others, you are not dessert, but do expect him to mention your "relationship."

It's too early to be at his house. Decline the invite. If he loses interest in you, then my hunch is correct.
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
If it is a dinner for 2, then yes, you as a dessert is on the menu. However, if it is a get together he is having with others, you are not dessert, but do expect him to mention your "relationship."

It's too early to be at his house. Decline the invite. If he loses interest in you, then my hunch is correct.


I absolutely disagree.
 
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I absolutely disagree.
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
It's too early to be at his house. Decline the invite. If he loses interest in you, then my hunch is correct.

It is not too early.

Moving to each others' houses is progress. The opposite of progress is failure.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
It is not too early.

Moving to each others' houses is progress. The opposite of progress is failure.

I absolutely agree.
 
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Heck, he might end up being the dessert.
 
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Heck, he might end up being the dessert.
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itsabeatutifulday wrote :
mean I am dessert???? I have gone out with a guy 3 (1 first meet and 2 dates) times, seems nice like a gentleman. He has invited me to dinner at his house on Sunday, very casual, just grilling out steaks and my favorite bottle of wine. I accepted as it sounded nice to chat and be in less formal setting than a restaurant. But I am now wondering if i am being naive and he is expecting much more. I like him, but I am definitely not ready to take that step yet. What is the best way to handle? Thanks so much,
Doesn't matter what he expects that's his problem you just do what you want you don't owe him anything. If you leave at 9, that's just how the cookie crumbles. If he's a jerk about it then you got all the info you need.
 
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