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Florida_Hostage is offline Florida_Hostage Post #1  July 30,2010, 12:39pm
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Three times now, three eHa matches have given me a phone number via email and I have ran and jumped in my bed and pulled the covers up over my head. WHAT is wrong with me?!

I have continued email communications like I never saw that phone number and of course, 2 have poofed. I just can't seem to take that step!
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Three times now, three eHa matches have given me a phone number via email and I have ran and jumped in my bed and pulled the covers up over my head. WHAT is wrong with me?!
I think you need to offer your phone to the matches first or in response to them offering it, that way you'll take some of the pressure off yourself, being the one making the call.

If your not comfortable given out your number, there is always the secure call feature or buy a throw-away phone for e-dating purposes.
 
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It is kind of scary making that step, but you're never going to get that date unless you do. And once you've called, you'll question why you waited so long.
 
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Florida_Hostage wrote :
Three times now, three eHa matches have given me a phone number via email and I have ran and jumped in my bed and pulled the covers up over my head. WHAT is wrong with me?!

I have continued email communications like I never saw that phone number and of course, 2 have poofed. I just can't seem to take that step!
Why are you so scared to take that step? It's fairly essential to the dating process. Are you just looking for penpals?
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
I think you need to offer your phone to the matches first or in response to them offering it, that way you'll take some of the pressure off yourself, being the one making the call.

If your not comfortable given out your number, there is always the secure call feature or buy a throw-away phone for e-dating purposes.
That's half a good idea. I don't like being pressured to make a call, but then again, I'm not so sure I'm hip to receiving one either. Again, it's all ME. I think I must have issues of fear, of some sort.
 
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JeffB wrote :
Why are you so scared to take that step? It's fairly essential to the dating process. Are you just looking for penpals?
Intellectually, no. The rest of me? Maybe yes. I don't know.
 
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It is kind of scary making that step, but you're never going to get that date unless you do. And once you've called, you'll question why you waited so long.
I hope you are right.
 
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Three times now, three eHa matches have given me a phone number via email and I have ran and jumped in my bed and pulled the covers up over my head. WHAT is wrong with me?!
Maybe you held yourself hostage?
 
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Hi Florida.......I was kinda scared to have my first phone call too.

What helped me was to review his profile and some of the things that were shared in GC and emails. Then I took a pen to paper and wrote down some topics I thought would be good to discuss. Even little things. Just to make sure I could contribute to the conversation. You know what I found out? It really wasn't so bad and I felt confident.

Give it a try. Don't you still have one more person's phone number that hasn't poofed? And, like some others have said, maybe send a message saying "thanks for you phone number. Here is mine. Looking forward to hearing from you."

Good luck!!!
 
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Hi Florida.......I was kinda scared to have my first phone call too.

What helped me was to review his profile and some of the things that were shared in GC and emails. Then I took a pen to paper and wrote down some topics I thought would be good to discuss. Even little things. Just to make sure I could contribute to the conversation. You know what I found out? It really wasn't so bad and I felt confident.

Give it a try. Don't you still have one more person's phone number that hasn't poofed? And, like some others have said, maybe send a message saying "thanks for you phone number. Here is mine. Looking forward to hearing from you."

Good luck!!!
Yes, I do still have one that has not poofed. I also have about 8 billion profiles since this silly free 10 days and its hard to weed through everyone. I know I should just bite the bullet and make a call, but what comes after that? A date???!!!!! OMG!!! Nooooooooooo.....

I have issues. I want to fall in love in again and meet someone, but with this online dating thing, I feel like I am on a deadline and I don't think I like it! It's totally ME.
 
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