I really like this medical student guy, but I'm leaving to Canada in three days. What should I do?


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hermosabeach91 is offline hermosabeach91 Post #1  July 27,2010, 12:59am
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About a week and a half ago, I met this really sweet guy at a religious gathering. Even before we formally met, I was quite attracted to him and he seemed to look at me a lot. He seems like a very intelligent, sweet, and sincere guy and I can't stop thinking about him. At the time we first met, we were sitting with the same group of people and a few minutes into our group conversation, he introduced himself and shook my hand. He seems to be interested in everything I say and laugh a lot when we're talking. Later, my mom told me that he seemed much more vibrant than usual (when he was talking to me) and that she could hear him laughing from a couple tables away. This other girl I talked to said it seems like he has a crush on me. We've talked a couple times since then and he always smiles a lot when he talks to me. The other day he suggested that I come to the lava with him and a group of his friends, but they ended up not going. Usually he sits a couple seats away from me, but last night he sat across from me and we talked for a good half an hour. He looks me in the eyes a lot when he talks to me and he's not afraid to admit his weaknesses. He lives in Reno, Nevada and is a couple years into medical school and was talking about possibly transferring here to Hawaii. He's usually the one to initiate the conversation, but also the one to end it. I'll see him a couple more times before I leave, but I don't want Wednesday (the night before I leave to Canada) to be the end of our friendship. Also, he leaves Hawaii on the 10th, which is before I get back from Canada. Does it seem like he's interested? Should I suggest that we keep in touch? By the way, most men find me very attractive and pretty intelligent. I know he's more intelligent than I am, but I think we're even when it comes to looks.
 
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Yes you should suggest keeping in touch. At the very worst you'd gain a friend.
 
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Yes you should keep in touch. I wish you the best.
 
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I agree with what the other posters have said.

I also need to address a couple of things at the very end of your post.

Why do you think he is more intelligent than you? If it is because he is a medical student, doctors put on their pants one leg at a time just like you do.

Why are you tallying up your and his looks. Beauty or handsomeness are not indicative of values, morals or any of the other things that truly matter in a relationship. If you find him attractive and he finds you fit his idea of what he is looking for in the physical aspects of a girl then it does not matter if you are equally attractive or even if your friends find him attractive or his friends find you attractive.
 
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If you don't try to keep in contact, you'll spend the rest of your life wishing you had. As a couple of young people in transition, having an email friendship but knowing you have also connected on another level is appropriate.


Neither of you knows where you will end up in 3 5 or 10 years. Before you leave, offer your email address and phone number and ask for his. Tell him you enjoy his company and don't want to loose contact. Thats sufficient for now, then go on with your life as it is before you as he will with what will be a busy 4 more years at least.

Try not to 'future trip' or do what if thinking about this, but do invest some time into being a good pen pal and should the opportunity arise, make plans to get together on the mainland.

I met a very nice man in Costa Rica a few years ago-a professional man who is very invested in his life there. I went back in 2008 and we had a fun time dancing and going out during my vacation there and I have plans to go back again for dental work in January of 2011...and he is looking forward to my visit.

Had I turned down his invitation to dance in 2006, I wouldn't have this very nice friend to hang out with when I visit Costa Rica (I love it there). We email a couple of times a month and though he doesn't ever come this far north, I have met up with him in AZ when he was visiting on business.

Don't miss out on these little transitional relationships in life..they can be very rewarding.
 
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About a week and a half ago, I met this really sweet guy at a religious gathering. Even before we formally met, I was quite attracted to him and he seemed to look at me a lot. He seems like a very intelligent, sweet, and sincere guy and I can't stop thinking about him. At the time we first met, we were sitting with the same group of people and a few minutes into our group conversation, he introduced himself and shook my hand. He seems to be interested in everything I say and laugh a lot when we're talking. Later, my mom told me that he seemed much more vibrant than usual (when he was talking to me) and that she could hear him laughing from a couple tables away. This other girl I talked to said it seems like he has a crush on me. We've talked a couple times since then and he always smiles a lot when he talks to me. The other day he suggested that I come to the lava with him and a group of his friends, but they ended up not going. Usually he sits a couple seats away from me, but last night he sat across from me and we talked for a good half an hour. He looks me in the eyes a lot when he talks to me and he's not afraid to admit his weaknesses. He lives in Reno, Nevada and is a couple years into medical school and was talking about possibly transferring here to Hawaii. He's usually the one to initiate the conversation, but also the one to end it. I'll see him a couple more times before I leave, but I don't want Wednesday (the night before I leave to Canada) to be the end of our friendship. Also, he leaves Hawaii on the 10th, which is before I get back from Canada. Does it seem like he's interested? Should I suggest that we keep in touch? By the way, most men find me very attractive and pretty intelligent. I know he's more intelligent than I am, but I think we're even when it comes to looks.
It seems to me that what you really need to do is make an impact on this guy so he'll remember you.

I suggest having sex with all of his immediate best friends and sending him pictures of it.

Yeah, that always works.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Why do you think he is more intelligent than you? If it is because he is a medical student, doctors put on their pants one leg at a time just like you do.
It's true. They do.
 
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hankscorpio wrote :
It seems to me that what you really need to do is make an impact on this guy so he'll remember you.

I suggest having sex with all of his immediate best friends and sending him pictures of it.

Yeah, that always works.
Did I tell you that I am an immediate best friend of his!
 
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DancingFool wrote :
Yes you should suggest keeping in touch. At the very worst you'd gain a friend.
Agree.

Also, an ongoing communication will not hamper you from meeting others (unless agreed to.) So, there is no significant downside.


Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Why do you think he is more intelligent than you? If it is because he is a medical student, doctors put on their pants one leg at a time just like you do.
Since the admission criteria to medical school do not include how one dresses, this observation is not germane to the OP's observation / assessment of relative intelligence.


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Beauty or handsomeness are not indicative of values, morals or any of the other things that truly matter in a relationship.
Caring about attractiveness in a mate, seeking to be attractive oneself, and appreciating attraction, are all matters of morals.

As is many of the lifestyle choices which affect appearance.

These are very important, in my experience.


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If you find him attractive and he finds you fit his idea of what he is looking for in the physical aspects of a girl then it does not matter if you are equally attractive or even if your friends find him attractive or his friends find you attractive.
Agree in general - however not everyone is cut out to disregard their family / community when it comes to choosing a partner.
 
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