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This is half rant, half looking for advice.

I just got an e-mail on another e-dating site from a guy I have absolutely no interest in. The reasons why don't matter. Here is his e-mail: hey girl whats up

I copied and pasted that. So, besides short and no punctuation, it's very lacking on content, don'tcha think? I get very irritated at e-mails like these, so I'm turning to the wonderful people here for ideas on what to say in response to this. My irritation would get the best of me and I would send some snarky, smart mouth, something. And, I really don't want to hurt the guy with words.

And, does anyone have any stories of these short e-mails working? I can't see this inspiring anyone to respond with anything less than a "no". But, hey, that's just me.
 
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Just write back:
yo...sup?

See how far he takes it.
 
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I've had quite a few who just says "Hi" and nothing more. Wonder why they even bother.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #4  July 26,2010, 10:26am

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Unless you want to make sure that you let your irritation know, my suggestion is you write back "Nothing much. Good luck with your seach"

or don't reply at all, especially since you're not interested in the guy anyway.

or you can say jokingly "Wow you're a man of a few words! I'm sorry, but I don't feel any chemistry based on your profile/not interested in romantic connection with you- good luck"
Last edited by PY_2; July 26,2010 at 10:28am. Reason: add option 3
 
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Main Entry: 1up
Pronunciation: \ˈəp\
Function: adverb
Etymology: partly from Middle English up upward, from Old English ūp; partly from Middle English uppe on high, from Old English; both akin to Old High German ūf up and probably to Latin sub under, Greek hypo under, hyper over — more at over
Date: before 12th century
1 a (1) : in or into a higher position or level; especially : away from the center of the earth (2) : from beneath the ground or water to the surface (3) : from below the horizon (4) : upstream 1 (5) : in or into an upright position ; especially : out of bed b : upward from the ground or surface c : so as to expose a particular surface
2 : with greater intensity
3 a : in or into a better or more advanced state b : at an end c : in or into a state of greater intensity or excitement d : to or at a greater speed, rate, or amount e : in a continual sequence : in continuance from a point or to a point
4 a (1) : into existence, evidence, prominence, or prevalence (2) : into operation or practical form b : into consideration or attention
5 : into possession or custody
6 a : entirely, completely b —used as an intensifier
7 : in or into storage : by
8 a : so as to arrive or approach b : in a direction conventionally the opposite of down: (1) : to windward (2) : northward (3) : to or at the top (4) : to or at the rear of a theatrical stage
9 : in or into parts
10 : to a stop —usually used with draw, bring, fetch, or pull
11 : for each side
 
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Responses I have given, in all earnestness and seriousness to the newcoolspeak hail "what's up?"

Ceiling.
Taxes.
Rainclouds.
Not my credit score.
Non-somnambulant persons.
China (if after dark).

And so on. *grin* From my later experiences with somewhat normal people of a certain age, I conclude that more appropriate or expected responses run along the lines of:

I dunno. 'Sup?
Hangin'.
Chillin'.
Nuthin'.
Bored.
Not much. You?

I can foresee a protracted string of such two and, rarely, three syllable responses dwindling out unto the horizon. My foresight here is necessarily limited by the small sample size (i.e., a few people I know between the ages of 13 and 30). Perhaps this is the accepted mating call within this fellow's social circle?

Do you see anything that inclines you to include yourself in said social circle? Perhaps there are hidden virtues there, just glimpsed? A hint of slumbering interest? Some spark of woman's intuition that leads you on?

Or perhaps not. Not every coarse pebble conceals a diamond within its roughened hide...
 
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I ignore those emails. If he talks slang when first approaching me, I don't understand that language I do not speak it.
 
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OMG! You guys have me laughing so hard. Maybe I should send that huge long definition to the guy?!?

This guys is definitely not in that generation (he is 49) that speaks this way, so it's even more aggravating.

I am going to wait to see what other gems you guys come up with before I respond later today.
 
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Wootz wrote :
Responses I have given, in all earnestness and seriousness to the newcoolspeak hail "what's up?"

Ceiling.
Taxes.
Rainclouds.
Not my credit score.
Non-somnambulant persons.
China (if after dark).

And so on. *grin* From my later experiences with somewhat normal people of a certain age, I conclude that more appropriate or expected responses run along the lines of:

I dunno. 'Sup?
Hangin'.
Chillin'.
Nuthin'.
Bored.
Not much. You?

I can foresee a protracted string of such two and, rarely, three syllable responses dwindling out unto the horizon. My foresight here is necessarily limited by the small sample size (i.e., a few people I know between the ages of 13 and 30). Perhaps this is the accepted mating call within this fellow's social circle?

Do you see anything that inclines you to include yourself in said social circle? Perhaps there are hidden virtues there, just glimpsed? A hint of slumbering interest? Some spark of woman's intuition that leads you on?

Or perhaps not. Not every coarse pebble conceals a diamond within its roughened hide...
Word.
 
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'Sup?

Oh man I'm glad you asked. You will not believe what I am going through! I can't even believe it! So today my mom calls ... wakes me up and what is that about? she knows not call me before 9 right? but does it all the time I mean wow I amso sick of that and all. So then she goes liek i want you to pay me back the $5,000 you borrowed and i'm like what? that was a gift! but she's always like that. what am i supposed to do with that? id on't have 5k to give her and she know that. so then i go like well ok. when do you want it becuase id know if i just say well i can't pay then she'll just askagin or get really mad or hwat. so she'says i want by next firday. Mom. get real.

'sup with you?
 
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