live2laughwitme is offline live2laughwitme Post #1  July 25,2010, 10:23pm
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hey I have been talking to this woman for about a month now and she seems really amazing! I really feel like I really like her but... I still have not seen what she looks like. Her friend that is setting us up tells me she looks good.
I have tried to swap pictures and she seems to delay it some how every time.
We are supposed to go out this week but I almost feel like she must have something wrong with or she is fake.

What should I do? Every time I re ask for photo she say she will and does not send one.
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If it were me, a female, having the guy do a runaround on me with photos, I would put down an ultimatum. If they really have something to hide, it will come up when you meet, so they are trying to delay what they know will happen.

If you do meet, do it in a public place.
 
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What's the big deal. Just go meet her for coffee. After all you really can't figure out real life attraction through photos and most people never really look like their photos anyway. Getting all bent out of shape over some pics is silly. Either you'll like each other in real life or you won't. It's that simple.
 
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If it were me, a female, having the guy do a runaround on me with photos, I would put down an ultimatum. If they really have something to hide, it will come up when you meet, so they are trying to delay what they know will happen.

If you do meet, do it in a public place.
Always a good idea for a first date. But not only a public place but also one that has a lot of people around.
 
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Her not sending a photo could be a lack of computer knowledge on how to get it from camera to computer to e-mail. Of course she should have told you that she was having problems.

My advice in general is to go out with almost anyone at least once. I can spend an hour or two with someone that I am not at all attracted too and still enjoy my meal and conversation.

I do see some red flags in your OP. Since your friends are setting this up and know the girl why are they just saying she "looks good"? Why have they not said she is so tall, has this body type, this color / type of hair, in other words described her?

Then unless your friends are going to be doing the introductions if you don't know what she looks like how will you find her at the place of meeting? Have you at least sent her your photo so she can find you?
 
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Go out with her. If it doesn't go well, you don't have to go out again.

Who knows why she won't send the photo? A million possible reasons. She's shy. She's afraid to send a digital photo to someone she doesn't know. She's not good at technology. She's spectacularly beautiful and wants to know you like her for more than that. She's shy.

Just go! Have fun.
 
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The same thing happened to me not too long ago. I just said, since you haven't sent me a photo yet, how will I recognize you when I see you? He sent a photo, but even if he hadn't it would have been ok.

We went out, but nothing came of it. So, a photo gives you no garauntees.

Go out with her simply for the pleasant experience of enjoying someone else's company. What have you got to lose?
 
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That would raise a red flag for me... I went on several dates where I didn't see the girl's picture, and I can tell you I was absolutely not attracted to her.

Send her a email with a current picture, and ask to see hers, before you meet up.
 
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