Cape_Codder is offline Cape_Codder Post #11  July 26,2010, 11:32am

Unregistered

Joined: Apr 2010

Massachusetts

Posts: 1,007

See profile

Let me guess, her friend is a women? If so, remember that women and men have far different approaches when evaluating each other especially when it comes to relationships and friends.

Men for the most part are visual creatures. We have a tendency to look at photo's first and are very discerning regarding looks. Women are apt to, especially when describing friends incorporate other known qualities, the warmth of the person, compassion of her, etc. especially when describing a friend.

When adjectives such as pretty, attractive, beautiful, gorgeous, stunning or striking are omitted, together with any other description missing, I question and take pause. In this instance, the use of the word "Good" is not a good omen.

This doubt becomes compounded when the person ignores several requests to exchange photos. Also, a month is a long time to communicate without meeting. You would not be wrong to conclude that she is not comfortable with her own appearance.

What have you got to lose by meeting? Possibly an awkward/embarrassing encounter and a very uncomfortable evening.

The majority of female responses to your thread encourage you to set aside the issue of physical appearance and judge her as a person when you meet. If personality is important enough to you that appearance becomes a distant second factor, go for it.

Personally, I can't set aside the appearance factor, and the fact that she's hiding it would scare me. I think your in for a rude awakening. I would speak with your original friend again, voice your reservations and ask for a picture or at least an honest description.

Follow up and let us know how things turn out, especially if you decide to meet.
 
  Reply With Quote
ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #12  July 26,2010, 11:40am
ami1uwant's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Feb 2008

Seattle, WA

Posts: 4,639

See profile

From my experience...those that dont want to share pictures have something serious to hide...like being overweight.

Sure there are some who dont want to show their picture for the opposite reasons because they are very attractive and want to learn about the person first.

If you were already planning to...just meet her face to face. But do something simple like lunch or coffee or dinner and decide when you see her if she is something.

There is a chance she is fake....but this is a setup from a friend who I doubt is out to do this with you. On some online dating sites this is common.
 
  Reply With Quote
lacedwithhope is offline lacedwithhope Post #13  July 26,2010, 7:33pm
lacedwithhope's Avatar

dog slimed!

Power Poster

Joined: Aug 2008

At the left coast

Posts: 7,341

See profile

ami1uwant wrote :
From my experience...those that dont want to share pictures have something serious to hide...like being overweight.

Sure there are some who dont want to show their picture for the opposite reasons because they are very attractive and want to learn about the person first.

If you were already planning to...just meet her face to face. But do something simple like lunch or coffee or dinner and decide when you see her if she is something.
I agree with this last part. I'd exercise cautious optimism. Wait. I do that anyway.

Good luck! (and let us know how it goes)
 
  Reply With Quote
Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #14  July 27,2010, 6:07pm
Mr_Right's Avatar

says this is the best wedding picture!

Virtuoso

Joined: Jun 2008

USA

Posts: 4,402

See profile

Yeah, if you're going to meet her, then don't do something expensive. Just start out at Starbucks, and then see if you click in person.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 2 of 2
  • 1
  • 2


« So short and sweet? | Dating | Would anyone like to share their personal experiences with pick-up conversations? »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Have I lost my mind? ghostcall Relationships 38 October 6,2010 6:11am
just got out of long term relationship and feel lost ajw204 Dating 15 May 14,2010 8:02am
Can Salvation Be Lost? lindseyk Christian Singles 42 May 7,2010 11:07am
I am so lost and hurt that my ex was a jerk and he went back to his Ex. Giselle1008 Dating 17 August 10,2009 6:54pm
lost posts angelpoet Talk to your Community Team 4 May 13,2009 7:18pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“I did answer and then also updated with news that I was premature - there is no relationship after all.” –  picklesNcream

Join the “Blast off...!” discussion

“For dating. I'm basically in a (lifelong) rut that I would like to get out of. Sadly, my good friends are also in the same place as I am - if not worse. The topic of women is non existent among ... ” –  JohnNorthSydney

Join the “So I've been thinking about getting a coach.” discussion

“I need some advice. I'm 18, never kissed/dated a girl nor obviously had a girlfriend. I just finished my first year at a top 30 university (full ride scholarship) with a 4.0 GPA. Starting my ... ” –  jrw93

Join the “Should I ever date in college?” discussion

“The point is no me seeing their photos, I can see their photos; it is them seeing my photos. This means nothing can be gauged by any interest they show to you. On FCW I've noticed the non-paying ... ” –  JohnNorthSydney

Join the “Free Communication Weekend” discussion

“TD, Have you PM'd eH_Advice_Host_Eve to ask her for help? She is good at helping people tweak their settings so they are more likely to get the results they want. Please consider contacting her if ... ” –  tink333

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“Did you know OT stands for on topic and off topic?” –  Bluskies4ever3

Join the “Off -Topic” discussion

“My inner child says I am. Anastasia is intriguing. (Her name too). I like the dress she's wearing in the ad. I wonder how eHarmony picks the couples for their print and TV ads.” –  Bluskies4ever3

Join the “Where is Becky?!?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 3:10am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0