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leveler1 is offline leveler1 Post #51  July 26,2010, 7:10pm
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dreamspiral wrote :
I met a girl on the train and showed interest in her. We talked about where we were from and what we did for a living.
The nitpicky details between sentence one and sentence two are where I'm stuck at. Just how did you show interest in her? What did you say to her, this stranger on the train? How did she react at first before the conversation got rolling?
 
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I met a girl on the train and showed interest in her. We talked about where we were from and what we did for a living. Then she mentioned that she had kids. So, I knew that was the end, but I really enjoyed the conversation. At least I made the effort to get to know her. I don't think she was annoyed by me showing interest. I tried to be positive and not think negative. Its always awkward for me not knowing if I'm talking to a married woman (or has boyfriend) or not. And should I even consider those things at all when approaching a woman?
Several years ago, I was on a business trip and ended up sitting next to a woman. She actually started the conversation by saying she was glad I wasn't so large as to spill into her seat. Her flight had two segments and apparently she was seated next to a very large, smelly person on the previous segment. We ended up talking for most of the flight. She also had a portable dvd player she shared while watching a movie.

She was flying with someone else who was seated a couple rows back. I figured it was her boyfriend. But, the point is that she initiated the conversation with something kinda lame and it all flowed naturally from there.

The really funny thing is that I ended getting her as a match on eHarmony. I knew I wasn't interested in her; it was almost like we already had a first date and it was one of those she's nice enough and we'd get along, but, I don't see her as a lifetime mate.
 
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Thanks everybody! Any more stories?
I'll tell you how I met my ex-wife.

I was at a bar playing NTN (a satellite trivia-type game) and finished second place amongst the 8 or so patrons playing. There was an attractive brunette playing who I had never seen at the bar before, so I made sure to smile at her and make eye contact. Didn't say anything though.

So anyway, I was in the lead in the trivia game until the last question, which I blew. So I stood up at the bar and loudly proclaimed "Who the heck is Mickey?" Mickey was the "handle/name" of the person who won. I scanned the bar for responses and the attractive brunette across the bar from me replied "I'm Mickey."

I looked her straight in the eye, smiled, smacked my fist on the bar and said "I can't believe I lost to a woman!"

She smiled and shot back with "I never lose to men." I knew right there I had to talk to her.

So I walked over and asked her name and then something about one of the questions during the game and blah blah blah, we clicked.

The point of my rambling story is that "lines" or "introductions" or whatever you want to call them are just icebreakers. Anything can break the ice. Look at the line I used to meet my ex: "I can't believe I lost to a woman!" I could have been totally shot down using such a blatantly sexist phrase like that ... but it worked. It showed I had the guts to go for it. In the end it doesn't even really matter what you say to break the ice, just so long as you do it.
 
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Several years ago, I was on a business trip and ended up sitting next to a woman. She actually started the conversation by saying she was glad I wasn't so large as to spill into her seat. Her flight had two segments and apparently she was seated next to a very large, smelly person on the previous segment. We ended up talking for most of the flight. She also had a portable dvd player she shared while watching a movie.

She was flying with someone else who was seated a couple rows back. I figured it was her boyfriend. But, the point is that she initiated the conversation with something kinda lame and it all flowed naturally from there.

The really funny thing is that I ended getting her as a match on eHarmony. I knew I wasn't interested in her; it was almost like we already had a first date and it was one of those she's nice enough and we'd get along, but, I don't see her as a lifetime mate.
That's pretty funny that eH eventually sent you her profile. Small world. Anyway, that kind of situation I could see myself getting into without -too- much hesitation. I mean you're seated right next to each other, nothing either of you could really do about it, so you have an "excuse" to be there talking to her without any explanation. The thing I'm still caught on is if I'm at a supermarket or bookstore or restaurant and I see somebody pretty minding her own business, and I approach said woman and presumably interrupt her with...whatever. Unless I'm reading into it too much, it seems like a different situation entirely.
 
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Look at the line I used to meet my ex: "I can't believe I lost to a woman!"
Hopefully you didn't exclaim that on your way out of the divorce proceedings.

Seriously, though, great story. Thanks!
 
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Hopefully you didn't exclaim that on your way out of the divorce proceedings.

Seriously, though, great story. Thanks!
LOL *zing*

No, I said much worse after the divorce was settled. But that was just between me and a bottle of scotch ... and the bottle ain't tellin'!

You're welcome for the story!
 
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LOL *zing*

No, I said much worse after the divorce was settled. But that was just between me and a bottle of scotch ... and the bottle ain't tellin'!

You're welcome for the story!
That's why I scheduled my finalization hearing the day before St. Patrick's Day! Guinness and Jameson and friends driving you home FTW!
 
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Thanks everybody! Any more stories?
OK so today at the coffee shop ... this guy says to me and I wish I could remember the exact words, but I was pouring my coffee and he says to me something real close to "Well at least you are hot and a nice person." ... and I say, brow raised, stammering a bit ... Uh ... how do you know I'm nice, maybe someone would disagree with you on that ... and he says well I know you're nicer than all those rude truck drivers, I hate truck drivers .... I laughed and said I don't know, if you asked my exes about that, they'd probably like the truck drivers better and he says well I am a truck driver myself, well really a truck driver instructor and I say, Oh I see, you are the one who tells those truck drivers to just change lanes and not signal first bc everyone will move out of the way. And he laughs and we go on chatting and there you are. The nitty gritty details of how one guy gets from cheesy pickup line to actual live conversation.
 
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The nitpicky details between sentence one and sentence two are where I'm stuck at. Just how did you show interest in her? What did you say to her, this stranger on the train? How did she react at first before the conversation got rolling?
I left out some details! The girl and I actually talked while waiting for the train and then on the train. I walked up to the train stop... my mental state was like... wow that's a pretty girl when I first saw her. But, I didn't dwell on it and didn't even approach her. I was aware of my surroundings. I noticed this older lady looking at a map trying to figure out where she was and wanted to go. I just looked her way and asked if I could help. There were a few other people around. This older lady was not sure how to get from point a to point b. So, I tried to help her. I wasn't too familiar with the area myself. But, I tried to help anyway. in the mean time the pretty girl that I was interested in came over to help the lady out with directions too. So, we both were trying to help the older lady find her way. And then the girl and I started to talk about where we were from... where we went to school... what we did for a living. Pretty basic stuff. I initiated the conversation with "are you from this area?". Then the conversation flowed from there.
 
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