Smitten with Mr. Short, Pot Bellied Never Married & Average Looking

Yes, he is that and more. He is not the "type" I might have found myself talking to in a social setting as he is rather shy, quiet and very unassuming looking. He is my height (when I'm barefoot), socially rather awkward, admittedly quirky and (by his own admission) odd.

I was drawn to his profile over and over. His words revealed such utter respect for females that some might have found it smarmy. I did not. Our political views mirrored each other, as did our work ethic and background. He had but a couple must haves that he was looking for and they were the same as mine. If I had a list of must haves for physical characteristics, he would not fit any of them.

I thought I had to have witty and banter-minded. He is literal, more often than not he just doesn't "get" the joke or inuendo while sarcasm / plays on words is lost on him at times as well. He admits to being shunned in school, particularly by girls. Picked on, bullied and teased, he always took the high road and did not retaliate. In later years he became a police officer in his hometown - finding the satisfaction of retaliation in jailing one of his high school bullies.

Upon meeting I found him to be exactly as his profile described. Unlike my abusive husband of 27 years, this never-married gem does not even glance at women when with me, opens doors, walks on the street side, is uncomfortable when I insist on paying for dates, treats his parents with respect, and gives me all his attention when we are together. He asks if I am ok and if he can get me anything. Out of past necessity I am extremely self-reliant but learning to let him help.

I will find witty conversation with my co workers. He never drinks, but I can get that with occasional girls night out. He may not have everything I thought I wanted, but he has everything I need.

"I was the type nobody thought could make it. I had a funny Boston accent. I couldn't pronounce my R's. I wasn't a beauty".
Barbara Walters

I'm glad you posted this. The guy I'm dating now is a lot like this. He's very average to everyone else, but they don't take the time to see what I see. He's my height, brown hair, brown eyes with a belly... but an amazing smile and a sense of humor that matches my own (scary thought I know). Never married. No kids. Responsible with his money. Respectful of the fact that I love my child and of the way I'm raising him. Knows my kid's a miracle and is trying to find a way to fit in with the single mom thing without trying to displace his dad or hurt anyone's feelings. Weird and quirky in his own ways but... he cares and he listens. He's a man. Does manly things. He is uncomfortable when I pay but he's slowly learning that I like to pay every now and then. He respects his parents and my own. He takes care of me when I'm sick and opens doors for me. Understands my quirks, puts up with my horror movie and Bengals obsession. Avid gardner, but can chop a huge tree down by the time I'm done whining about having to do it. Holds me when I cry at girlie movies or SPCA commercials and laughs at me at the same time. Not a drinker, but doesn't care that I am. Not a guy that I would have gone for in a million years had I met him in the "real world".. but man am I glad I met him.

So how does the idea of being physical with him sit with you?

careful, these are the heartbreakers in disguise!! Never see it coming...