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eupwnium is offline eupwnium Post #21  July 24,2010, 11:34pm
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Match dates- 0 in three months
eharmony - 3 in three months

Match just wound up being incredibly frustrating for me. I wrote tons of personalized e-mails and wound up having nothing to show for it. When my 3 month subscription ran out I didn't renew it because it is a pain to put in all of that work and just be ignored (or it is possible they didn't have a subscription but that is still annoying).

One has yielded results and one hasn't. That kind of concludes my feelings about it.
 
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Finding the right girl in sites you need a high ratio of luck. Thats how i perceive things.
 
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I've tried both and the rate of contacts and dates were about the same on both sites.

The difference was quality. The people I met on match seemed to be more interested in casual relationships. Not so on eHarmony.

I agree with Stevex. I'd use match again but not at the expense of EH.
 
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I was a paying member on match a few years back. It seemed like most of the profiles were for women who were more interested in going out and partying than in a long-term relationship.

I've debated going back on, because I haven't been having much luck with eHarmony of late, but I have no reason to believe that the matches have improved. The other disadvantage is the format - with eHarmony, if you are interested in someone it's easy to send a few questions and if you never hear back, no biggie. With match and other email-driven sites, you put time into writing a decent email, and never hear back - it's much more frustrating.
 
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rocchio is offline rocchio Post #25  July 25,2010, 6:17am
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Ha! As many on the thread have accurately pointed-out, the email response rate on match.com is miserable for men. I have been on and off match over the years and have finally figured out a way of achieving some level of success. Please allow me to share what I found out to be a great way to increase your sent/recieve email ratio should you decide to join match.com.

Firstly, never, ever, send some personally crafted email that mentions common interests and compliments the target (you know what I mean--the kind of email women say they want). It is a giant waste of time and your response rate will suck. Secondly, do not send long emails!

The reciepient of your email is being bombarded by a host of other guys (especially so if she's very attractive!). The emails she recieves begin to all look the same (the things I have recommended that you don't do). To distinguish yourself from the crowd, you must behave a little unexpectedly. You must send brief, flippant, and devil-may-care emails in order to get a response. Be a wise-ass. Poke a little fun at her profile (never the way she looks, though. That's just idiotic). Yes, some women will become offended, but most won't. Many will be curious about you. Here's an example of an email with which I have had a high level of success in getting back a response. (15-20%!!!)

Hi! Now that's what I call a direct profile. It sounds like you know what you want--a guy who "gets" you. So, you have it all figured out, huh? :-) I'd love to hear back from you, so shoot me an email unless you are not a member and can't respond-which means you are just cheap. Or if you ignore my email--which means you are just rude. Or--Yikes--you are not a member and ignore my email, which makes you both cheap and rude!

I know. It seems odd that I would get a response from such an email, but I do and have managed to parlay the exchange into several dates with different women---attractive women!. Just come up with an email that is unexpected and a bit odd. Differentiate yourself from the other guys. Also, wait a day before responding back.

In order to craft the right email that works for you, practice on profiles that you don't care about hearing back from. DON'T waste your practice emails on the highly desirable women. Once you start getting an acceptable response rate, start sending the email to women you would definately date. It's also a good idea to refer to one specific thing in your email about her profile. Women do not want to feel like they are getting a form letter.

I know it all sounds like work---and dating ought to be easier, but it's not. I think it makes it more fun. Dating is, indeed, a competitive endeavor. You have to have a clear and conscise strategy to be successful on match.com (or eharmony, but that's another issue).

Good luck!
 
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therealitypolice is offline therealitypolice Post #26  July 27,2010, 5:42am
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Those are interesting tips rocchio I completely agree writing a long letter as a first letter is a waste of time. A 15 to 20 percent response rate is pretty good for a guy I imagine. I notice Match seems really picture or visual based and a lot of the photos almost look like they were done by professionals for a model shoot or something. I just get the feeling a lot of people on there aren't worrying about compatibilty or other things very much. It sort of reminds me of that one fish site to a certain extent.
 
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