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greg75 is offline greg75 Post #1  July 12,2010, 8:22am
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Hi all! Well, I just wanted to review my third date with the girl I have been seeing. I view the third date as kind of a make or break date for me. By that point, you either feel something for the person, or you don’t. Well, I am obviously feeling something for this girl, and she for me likewise. Our third date took place at the big zoo in North Carolina. We had an awesome day, even though it was a tad bit warm. After the zoo, we went to a going away party for a couple of her friends who are moving in a couple of days. So, it was nice getting to meet some of her friends that she calls her best friends. They seemed to like me and warmed up to me really well. She is going to have a chance to meet my friends in a couple of weeks. Anyway, I certainly ended with a kiss or twelve…lol! I think she had been waiting for me to kiss her and probably would have responded well to it on the second date, but I didn’t want to seem too eager.

Anyway, I’m not sure when our next date is. I am hoping we will see each other this weekend, but I can’t remember if she had plans or not. We had a nice talk about things in our lives that are important to a relationship. Religious views, family stuff, etc…. I think you tend to talk more about the important things early on when you’re in my age range. Anyway, we realized that we are looking for a lot of the same things, and we just seem to “get” each other. Still, I am playing things cool and letting things develop naturally. I’m not forcing anything with her. I think we are both going at a speed that is safe and comfortable for each other, but at the same time, we’re moving toward the direction of an exclusive relationship. I am enjoying every second of it. The only drawbacks I would see is that we do live about 45 minutes from each other, so it isn’t like it would be extremely convenient for us to meet during the week (unless we were both off from work.) But, I think that will actually help us more, because it keeps things fresh and keeps us wanting each other more. We have our separate alone time and we have our time to spend with each other.

So, things are going great. If any advice I can give to anybody would be, don’t give up, but don’t force anything. It really does happen right out of the blue and I think it’s even more so awesome when it happens like that, rather than to “seek” that connection with each person you are matched up with (if that makes any sense.) And if and when you do find that connection with someone, just let it flow naturally and see where it takes you. Keep your head as much involved as your heart…maybe even more so. You’ll know when things are going well enough that you feel you can add more of your heart into it, but just have fun in the getting to know each other phase. Don’t get too serious too quickly, unless you both are on the same page.
 
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dmi is offline dmi Post #2  July 12,2010, 8:39am
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Sounds wonderful. 45 minutes is nothing; I spend that long getting to work every day. If that's the worst drawback you can come up with, you're doing well.
 
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That's awesome! Nice to read a happy post on here.
 
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greg75 wrote :
The only drawbacks I would see is that we do live about 45 minutes from each other, so it isn’t like it would be extremely convenient for us to meet during the week (unless we were both off from work.)
This isn't a drawback or enough not to see each other during the week. As ya'll progress you will find ways to see each other during the week. My gf lives 45mins to an hour away. I still see her once or twice during the week and every weekend. So don't look at it as a drawback. Just more alone time on the drive. Anticipation
 
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Great news! And I agree that 45 minutes is nothing - but, for now, you're right that it'll help with the anticipation and making it even more exciting when you do get to see each other. (This is what I tell myself about my guy being 2 hours away, anyway, and it's working for us so far. )
 
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Good for you. If things continue to go well, you'll find that you don't mind that distance at all. My boyfriend and I lived 2 hours apart before we recently moved in together. Maintaining/increasing interest across a distance like that over time is a good gauge of how interested you are in someone.
 
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Excellent news, Greg! Glad you two had a great time at the zoo and with her friends--and smooching!

I agree with a few others, 45 minutes travel is nothing man. I live in the same city borough as my gf and it takes us about 45 minutes to drive to see each other!

Just think of that first time she calls you saying, "Oooh, Greggie, I really gotta see you tonight, baby!" You'll be in the car and zooming there even if it's the middle of the night!
 
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Excellent news, Greg! Glad you two had a great time at the zoo and with her friends--and smooching!

I agree with a few others, 45 minutes travel is nothing man. I live in the same city borough as my gf and it takes us about 45 minutes to drive to see each other!

Just think of that first time she calls you saying, "Oooh, Greggie, I really gotta see you tonight, baby!" You'll be in the car and zooming there even if it's the middle of the night!
Then it becomes a 25 - 30 min drive or quicker depending on your driving skills
 
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You're right about not trying to "seek" that connection out. But i prefer to think about it as being open to the connection, instead of not seeking. Sometimes, the connection is right there, but one refuse to see, or act on it for one reason or another.

Looks like we're in the same boat, though I'm only on date 1.

Race ya?!?!?!

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Oh yeah, 45 minutes isn't bad at all. I kind of like the idea of dating someone from another city, because it forces me to get to know my way around the area. I live in a city where jobs are scarce (highest unemployment rate in the country) and jobs are bit easier to find in her city. But, it will be nice when she has a chance to make the trip up my way as well. I've got a lot of really cool ideas for some neat dates. That is one thing I like about summer time, there seems to be a lot more different things to do around my area and neighboring cities than just going out to dinner and a movie.
 
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