Overwhelming evidence that obese, unkind women date and get married


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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #1  July 11,2010, 2:12pm

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I've been here long enough to know the hot button that weight is for both men and women. If it is to be believed, men never date fat women, occasionally have sex with them but would never marry them -- and some seem to believe all married overweight women got that way *after* the wedding.

I've also read on EHA that men marry for kindness. I find this extra hard to believe.

I'm watching Bridezillas. I've casually watched this show for entertainment for a couple of years. Overwhelmingly the Bridezillas are not only mean, not only chubby, many are downright mean and fat. Mean, fat and super demanding.

Yet I come to these boards and men swear they are so picky and won't date anyone even a few pounds overweight (not all, but many). And other men swear kindness is important, along with being not so demanding or entitled. And, many women (nice women) wonder "what the heck is wrong with me, I can't get a date and when I do I can't keep a relationship"

While I have unofficial evidence. I know lots of not very nice people that are married, even more fat people or engaged people (who were that way before) and Bridezillas, while not scientific, I can't believe any of these women have a man waiting at the alter.

So what is the disconnect?
 
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I must admit to thinking about these boards while attending high school reunion events this weekend.

It was quite amusing actually to me because while it was true that a good portion of the women were heavier than in high school......(wait for it)..............

ALL of the men were heavier than in high school. And these guys weren't heavier by a little bit, but on average put on MUCH more than any of the women did.

Oh....and all those folks are married.
 
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I secretly (well not anymore!) love Bridezillas And I got my mom hooked on it too.

And every time we watch it, we wonder, who would marry this woman??

Not because she's fat (which you do have a point, they generally are) but because they are so downright mean and nasty to everyone, including the groom!

I too wonder how women like that can find someone to marry but nice, pleasant ladies like me can't. Maybe I need to become someone's baby mama?
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cp30 wrote :
Yet I come to these boards and men swear they are so picky and won't date anyone even a few pounds overweight (not all, but many). And other men swear kindness is important, along with being not so demanding or entitled.
Several possible reasons:

(a) What people say they do, and what people do, may not be equivalent.

(b) People on eHA often experience frustration and/or disappointment in establishing relationships ... perhaps pickiness is partly responsible.

(c) Perception of male stances here may be inaccurate, focusing on those voices which are loudest or which echo previously established beliefs.
 
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TXButtercup wrote :
Oh....and all those folks are married.
Don't married peoples tend to put on weight?
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
Several possible reasons:

(a) What people say they do, and what people do, may not be equivalent.

(b) People on eHA often experience frustration and/or disappointment in establishing relationships ... perhaps pickiness is partly responsible.

(c) Perception of male stances here may be inaccurate, focusing on those voices which are loudest or which echo previously established beliefs.
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TXButtercup wrote :
I must admit to thinking about these boards while attending high school reunion events this weekend.

It was quite amusing actually to me because while it was true that a good portion of the women were heavier than in high school......(wait for it)..............

ALL of the men were heavier than in high school. And these guys weren't heavier by a little bit, but on average put on MUCH more than any of the women did.

Oh....and all those folks are married.
my ten year reuninon wasn't that long ago (maybe it doesn't seem that long ago!?) regardless, I haven't been to my 20 year yet.

Anyway, most of the women looked amazing and better than they did in high school (I think this is because in the 10 years since high school the world was remarkaly educated about nutrition and beauty in ways we hadn't while we were in high school -- for better or worse).

The men....hardly recognizable, for the most part. Only a few in a good way.
 
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I don't understand why we can't just acknowledge that looks matter to a man.

Do you guys really believe they don't?
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
Don't married peoples tend to put on weight?
Maybe....

I would personally welcome the opportunity for an increase in certain physical activities myself

Of course, my observation was all after the fact, so I don't know at what point weight and marriage happened. I do know that more than a few are on marriage #2, and had already...um....shape shifted....before the second marriage.
 
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These boards cannot possibly be representative of reality. So many posters come here because they want to vent their frustrations, and they finds others that are equally furious. Then they feel vindicated and stay here to continue being validated.

Viewpoints here are definitely heavily skewed to far extremes.
 
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