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IsSheThe1 is offline IsSheThe1 Post #1  July 11,2010, 11:32am
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I'm meeting a girl from eHarmony this week that I've been communicating with for a couple of weeks. I've never met anyone from online before and I'm excited but also really nervous. Any tips to make myself more comfortable and not seem so nervous? Thanks
 
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Select a restaurant which you know and trust:

- Quiet, for conversation.

- Good food, for an enjoyable meal.

- Upscale service, so you are not endlessly interrupted.

Select a meeting time and date so you will not be rushed (Friday and Saturday night only, for me.)

Shower / shave beforehand (it is worth going home first, if Friday.)

Do not fake things, by dressing or acting other than your true self.

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- Sending her an e-mail to describe what you are wearing, exactly where you will be.

- Asking her how she likes to be greated (Kiss, handshake)?
 
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You're just meeting someone new. Stop fretting over whether "IsSheThe1". You'll wreck the meeting for both of you. Relax and be yourself. Set absolutely no expectation on the meeting.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Select a restaurant which you know and trust:

- Quiet, for conversation. (I agree)

- Good food, for an enjoyable meal. (I agree)

- Upscale service, so you are not endlessly interrupted. (I disagee, go with what you can afford and are comfortable spending, women don't really care much about this)

Select a meeting time and date so you will not be rushed (Friday and Saturday night only, for me.) (I agree, although it doesn't have to be a Friday or Saturday)

Shower / shave beforehand (it is worth going home first, if Friday.)

Do not fake things, by dressing or acting other than your true self. (I agree)

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You may also try:

- Sending her an e-mail to describe what you are wearing, exactly where you will be. (This is helpful, but not necessary unless you haven't seen what the other looks like.)

- Asking her how she likes to be greated (Kiss, handshake)? (I've never had this happen, just say hello and ask how she is doing.)
My comments are in blue. Have fun and don't forget to relax and enjoy the meal.
 
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Hey, check it out: VB_Girl doesn't mind if I show up a little stinky?
 
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Don't reach across the table, grab her head with both hands and lay a big kiss on her right in the middle of the first meeting......

well, unless it is going *extraordinarily* well
 
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IsSheThe1 wrote :
I'm meeting a girl from eHarmony this week that I've been communicating with for a couple of weeks. I've never met anyone from online before and I'm excited but also really nervous. Any tips to make myself more comfortable and not seem so nervous? Thanks
Relax....enjoy being in the moment. Read some positive self affirmations before your date and have a beer .
 
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Lots of good advice here.

In addition to being sure you will recognize each other, be clear on where you will meet. Outside the restaurant? In the reception area? At a table? (I have had a couple of awkward first meetings because this was misunderstood.)
 
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Lots of good advice here.

In addition to being sure you will recognize each other, be clear on where you will meet. Outside the restaurant? In the reception area? At a table? (I have had a couple of awkward first meetings because this was misunderstood.)
Agree with this.

Also, it's normal to be a little nervous in such a situation, but try not to worry so much about what you're going to say "next" that you are not even listening to her. (Both men and women do this.)

It's difficult to find that perfect zen balance between being enthusiastic and excited, yet not unrealistic or overly hopeful. I disagree that you should have "zero" expectations. I think you should expect to meet an interesting person and have some good conversation and beyond that...who knows?

Good luck and have fun!
 
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jayhawkgirl wrote :
I think you should expect to meet an interesting person and have some good conversation and beyond that...who knows?

Yep.

I would add to this, to enjoy your dinner. Since that part can be controlled, one variable is removed, and one goal assured.
 
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