Xena123 is offline Xena123 Post #1  July 10,2010, 1:22pm
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Alright. So met a guy online. Spoke a few times on the phone. The first time we spoke on the phone we talked for almost 2 hours. Talked about everything. Basically things we would probably have talked about on the first date. You know, what are you looking for, goals, that type of thing. Exchanged a few pictures after we spoke. I thought it went great. I think he did as well. He asked me if I wanted to do something on Friday, and I was all for it. Friday came, We spoke after work and still didn't have planned what we were going to do. He met me at my place and we talked for a little and then decided what we were going to do. We decided to go to the races. Not something I would have thought to do. So we went, obviously we couldn't talk much until between the races. But we managed to. I thought we had a good time. I was nervous and I wasn't sure what to talk about and what not. Once we left we spoke in the car on the way back. Got back to my place and hung out in front of the TV a little bit. Was extremely awkward. There wasn't much to do at my place. He left after a while and we did speak about doing something again. No kiss on the first date. He hugged me. Not quite sure what I am supposed to think about that. So, it's the next day. I have no clue what to think. Should I text him to say I had a nice time, we should do it again? Help me out. What do you think?
 
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If the person liked you, it is highly likely he will contact you.

It does no harm in contacting him - and might help if, for any reason, he was uncertain if you were / are interested.

Personally, I try to make a clear plan for a second meeting, during the first meeting.

This sounds like a case of no real chemistry so far, which means, I think, that it may just fade right out.
 
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I agree with DL that it sounds like there was really no fire...just a fizzle.

Just a question: do you like racing? You said it was not something you would have thought to do. In your conversations did he not pickup on your likes and such? For me it is just an odd choice for a first date unless you were both fanatics about it or something, especially because of the limited talking aspect.
 
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Well, we were trying to figure out something different to go and do. I like doing things outside and so does he. It was a nice night so, that is what we came up with. I enjoyed it. I think he did as well. Well at least he said he did. We talked a lot before and after.

I'm new to this whole online dating thing so I get really nervous when I meet someone for the first time.
 
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That is fine if you feel you had a good time. Just from your initial statements, it just appeared to me like it would have been awkward.

As far as your nervousness: don't worry about it...normal reaction.
 
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Remember this is a first meeting so there always is that nervous/awkwardness.

When I meet someone from online I dont expect a kiss on the first date....even if we had fun. I am sure he had some problem reading your level of interest given the nervousness you say you had.


ITs hard to tell. People find wierd reasons not to pursue a second date even though they had enjyed their time and had good converation.

I believe if the first meeting goes well and you enjoyed your time you should have a second date.
 
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Well, I actually heard back from him last night. I sent him a text message letting him know I had a good time. He had to work last night. But he called me to let me know he got my text but he is at work and doesn't like to be on his phone while working. Anyway, he said he would give me a call today. So, we will see what happens. But I am glad he contacted me.
 
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If this doesn't work out, though, next time you may want to think twice before inviting a complete stranger you met online to your house right away, though.
 
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