15 Great First Date Questions

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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #21  July 10,2010, 6:05am
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1. Who has been the biggest influence in your life?
2. What kinds of things really make you laugh?
3. What’s your favorite place in the entire world?
4. Who is your best friend? What do you like about him/her?
5. Favorite movie of all time? Why so?
6. What’s your biggest goal in life right now?
7. What is your favorite way to spend a Saturday?
8. Do you have any pet peeves?
9. What was your family like growing up?
10. What were you like as a kid?
11. What should I know about you that I’d never think to ask about?
12. Did you—or do you—have a nickname? What’s the story behind it?
13. Who was your favorite schoolteacher or college professor? Why?
14. Have you figured out your calling in life? What is it?
15. What do you hate most about the dating process? (Tell me so I can avoid it!)

Um, no!

Seriously, where do these articles come from - people who have never had a date?
Have you ever had a date?

Since you disdain these questions so much why don't you provide a list of questions that you do ask on a first date.
 
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My response to having one of those questions tossed at me would probably be to sit there, blinking. Those aren't answers I can come up with unless the conversation has organically led to the topic. (and I'd be thinking, "this guy has a list of questions." Ugh.

Now, if the topic came up naturally, then some of the questions would be okay. But really, some of them are just weird and some are a bit intrusive. On a first date, no one needs to know, say, #11.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Since you disdain these questions so much why don't you provide a list of questions that you do ask on a first date.

There is no way I would go in with a list of questions. Heck, I'd forget them, even if I thought it was a good idea (which I don't.)

I have almost always talked about education (I was an evening student at the time, so that is an obvious, almost necessary, topic.) This turns into speaking of employment, and usually employment goals (this is one of the most important subjects.)

I tend to talk about current newsworthy events (something not all women can / will do, but why not find that out right away?)

In general, I would never ask a question which pertains to a person's childhood, family, prior relationships - anything which can involve choices made by people she could not have controlled, as this is then not an evaluation on her.

Goals are valid topics, but I ask about them in more specific, factual ways, after a topic has otherwise come up.
 
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I looked at these questions as topics, but then i thought about the questions itself.

The questions itself are pretty forward and intrusive, but the material really isn't. I was going on the assumption that these questions were just topics of conversation.
 
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what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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"Tell me a bit more about yourself."

Pure agony which can only be made worse by the use of a phone.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
"Tell me a bit more about yourself."

Pure agony which can only be made worse by the use of a phone.
From casual observation on the street, and anywhere else, over the past few years, I would suggest to you that talking and texting on the cell phone (what you Brits call a "mobile" phone) is not agony, but ecstasy, which far, far surpasses sexual or any other ecstasy, for *any* female from 13-50 years of age.

How sad.
 
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Don't they call it a "handy" phone?
 
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Don't they call it a "handy" phone?
Nope.

Mobile.

Why do you call it a cell? (Is it about the battery?)

Either way 'chatting' to a stranger makes me want to throw mine out of the window and claim that I lost reception.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
Nope.

Mobile.

Why do you call it a cell? (Is it about the battery?)
I think they call it a "cell" phone because of the fixed cellular transmission towers throughout this country they need.

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6dle899 wrote :
...ecstasy, which far, far surpasses sexual or any other ecstasy, for *any* female from 13-50 years of age.
They seem to begin around 10 years of age around here. If I remember correctly, my daughter was 8 when she began demanding a cellphone.

I've also seen a few geriatrics driving scooters while talking and texting, so maybe you need to widen that range a bit.
 
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