15 Great First Date Questions

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spyfilmvillain is offline spyfilmvillain Post #91  May 23,2011, 11:16am
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Wow... those are some pretty lousy questions, and some seem way too personal for a first date.

If you're going on a first date with someone you met on a site like eH, then presumably from the GC and OC stages you know something about their interests, hobbies, or the kind of movies they like before you meet them.

Those would seem to make a lot better launching point for conversation that these questions. Heck, even (or maybe especially) paying your date a compliment on something she's wearing (earrings, jewelry, sweater, etc.) is better than these questions.

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Got my own set of date questions:

1. Cats or Dogs?
2. White or Wheat?
3. muffins or biscuits?
4. coke or pepsi?
5. white wine or red wine?
6. butter or margerine?
7. coffee or tea?
8. night owl or early morning person?
9. bath or shower?
10. your place or mine?

(first 9 questions don't matter.. i'm looking just to see if she's into playing along and get into it and make it fun... to decide Q10).

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Got my own set of date questions:

1. Cats or Dogs?
2. White or Wheat?
3. muffins or biscuits?
4. coke or pepsi?
5. white wine or red wine?
6. butter or margerine?
7. coffee or tea?
8. night owl or early morning person?
9. bath or shower?
10. your place or mine?

(first 9 questions don't matter.. i'm looking just to see if she's into playing along and get into it and make it fun... to decide Q10).

Richey
 
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richey is offline richey Post #94  May 23,2011, 12:41pm
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spyfilmvillain wrote :
Those would seem to make a lot better launching point for conversation that these questions. Heck, even (or maybe especially) paying your date a compliment on something she's wearing (earrings, jewelry, sweater, etc.) is better than these questions.

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ABSOLUTELY!!!! Because we all know that "wow.. i really like the pattern on your sweater" will never fail to start a 5 hr conversation intl the wee hours of the morning!

*shrugs*

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richey wrote :
ABSOLUTELY!!!! Because we all know that "wow.. i really like the pattern on your sweater" will never fail to start a 5 hr conversation intl the wee hours of the morning!

*shrugs*

Richey
LOL--if she can go on for 5 hours about a sweater, at least you've learned she goes in the "no second date for you, darlin'!" file.

As many people have said before, some of those questions they suggest could come across as way too personal for many on a first date. But I've never met a woman who didn't appreciate being complimented on something she's wearing--it shows that you notice details and it affirms her choice of outfit.

And a few times when I've noticed some unusual earrings or an unusual bracelet a woman is wearing, she replied that she bought them on a trip to another country and that does open up a new line of conversation.
 
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Nanette wrote :
Well, i'm glad i dont actually have to read the article.

and i agree that these are horrible questions. i would be bothered if someone interrogated me like this
You can't really think that a guy is gonna pull out an 8 1/2 X 11" sheet of paper and go thru all f i f t e e n questions as you are struggling to eat an oversized slice of romaine lettuce. I think what was trying to be said is if all else fails try 1 or 2. We've all had those ungodly moments that seemingly last forever. Usually, I just continue to shut up; but if it is going too long, then I inject humor
 
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Here's an idea: don't go into a first date with a list of questions. Treating a first date like a job interview or interrogation will not create attraction.
 
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