Opening doors still considered a good thing??


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BNNN is offline BNNN Post #1  July 8,2010, 8:00am
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Just curious what others may have to say about this as well as other courtesies.

I am 49 and always open a car door for my SO, as well as any door that we are entering. Realizing that women are more than capable of opening doors, pulling out their own chair, etc., what do the women on this board have to say about it? Do you want us to or do you feel it is old fashioned?

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Love it. The person looks 150% more handsome and gentlemanly when he does that. I love gentlemenly men . I always smile and graciously thank him for his kindness and care. It's a nice opportunity to start saying hi to each other, too. Please do not stop.
 
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Car doors drive me nuts because I am used to opening them myself. By the time the guy gets around to open it I have already started opening it and have to pull back so as to not hit them.

Everything else is sweet.
 
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This is likely dependent on who you ask. For me it is a resounding yes. How does your SO react to you opening doors? My guy does this and I instinctively say thanks. I like it but it is not a requirement. Yes, I can open my own door but I guess I see it as him taking care of me.

eta--I would feel weird if he opened the door when we were both in it--no need to run around the car and open it for me but it we are walking to the car together I like it for him to open my door.
 
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I am 40 and raised in the northeast. (Context matters) I open doors for people all the time and like when they open them for me. It's a common courtesy. I will not wait in front of a closed door for the man to open it if I arrive there first.

Pulling out chairs and all of that is cool. The car door thing can be annoying if I have to wait there long to be get out. With autocar doors it's so easy just to open and go.

However, I do like when people open the car door for me to get in. My ex did this all the time, every single time and I found it an endearing habit.

I find the standing up when the date enters or exits the room to be old fashioned but hey, I can roll with that too.

None of these social rituals are necessary. I don't miss them if they're not there but I usually appreciate them if they are there. I usually see them as generational or regional more than an indicator of politeness or old fashion.

My advice is to be yourself.
 
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I like it except when it's awkward ... I'm already opening the door, or the space is tight, etc.

I'd just do whatever your SO likes! Who cares what other women want?
 
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tjlpd wrote :
eta--I would feel weird if he opened the door when we were both in it--no need to run around the car and open it for me but it we are walking to the car together I like it for him to open my door.
Oh yeah, good point, I don't mind when we are walking to the car and they open the door, it is just the running around the car that seems silly.

I will also open the door if it is raining and such and I get there first.

I have never met a man that didn't do these things. Troy and I joke a lot about it at times. We came up to a puddle and he said shouldn't I lay my coat across it so you don't get your feet wet? I said I think you should lay down across it in case there are any deep spots that the coat can't handle. He then asked if he should get his tools and build me a bridge across it. I said that would work. Then we both jumped across it.
 
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I experienced a funny thing this morning....approaching the door with this woman and it requires you to swipe your badge....so she smiled, looked and me and said "You swipe the card, I'll open the door for you"

I was tempted to invite her to post here
Last edited by PY_2; July 8,2010 at 8:37am. Reason: does this make me only 75% more handsome? Technically i should be swiping the card and open the door to get the full 150%
 
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2clueless wrote :
I am 40 and raised in the northeast. (Context matters) I open doors for people all the time and like when they open them for me. It's a common courtesy. I will not wait in front of a closed door for the man to open it if I arrive there first.

Pulling out chairs and all of that is cool. The car door thing can be annoying if I have to wait there long to be get out. With autocar doors it's so easy just to open and go.

However, I do like when people open the car door for me to get in. My ex did this all the time, every single time and I found it an endearing habit.

I find the standing up when the date enters or exits the room to be old fashioned but hey, I can roll with that too.

None of these social rituals are necessary. I don't miss them if they're not there but I usually appreciate them if they are there. I usually see them as generational or regional more than an indicator of politeness or old fashion.

My advice is to be yourself.
I was going to post this same thing.
 
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